Final line of the article: And if she wants to f#@k you, she will tell you.
Aside from that, I don’t engage in any of the behaviors the author rails about. In fact, I take pains to keep things non-sexual with co-workers.
The flip side is that women DO use sex (or the hint thereof) to get what they want. Or to get help. That often includes flirting or dressing the part (in a subtle way). I’ve also heard women talking about men in pretty graphic terms (when they thought no man was in earshot). Lastly, not so long ago, women were complaining that they were not part of the “boys club”. The price of admission there is some degree of raunchiness which women will no doubt find offensive.
>>And if she wants to f*** you, she will tell you.
And there’s the rub, idn’t it? The women can be crass and invasive. There are fat women, bitchy women, skanky women, and women who just plain aren’t your wife or girlfriend. But if you decline their advances “why???” or “what are you gay?”.
Inappropriate is inappropriate regardless of what set of genitalia you have.
The woman who filed a “language” complaint with HR at a previous employer of mine was the same woman who loudly announced (as she laughed with a female co-worker), “these are stupid men jokes, YOU can’t see them!”.
She made complaints about what she said were sexist phrases about numerous employees (things they’d been saying about equipment long before she was on the scene, “you don’t have to babysit that machine” i.e. you don’t have to hover over it and watch it’s progress all day, not getting any other work done).
I noticed that, too. Funny, as that line coming from a woman to a man, would violate all of the above rules for men talking to women.