They’re strong and independent women, why are they so helpless, passive and dependent when it comes to sex? Maybe they’re mediocre themselves and just a port in a storm, so to speak. Introspection appears to be in order.
“They’re strong and independent women, why are they so helpless, passive and dependent when it comes to sex?”
The problem is that the default situation in nature is that females of the higher species tend to be programmed to be passive and seductive to initiate the sex act (even if only with pheromones), whereas the males are programmed to be the aggressors and instigators of the physical sex act once aroused by the female.
Obviously it’s a bit more complicated with humans, but nonetheless, the human female is more or less programmed to be taken (even if she must instigate the taking via seduction), and the male is programmed to do the taking (even if he must be seduced into doing it). Even the physical situation demands that psychology.
Thus, when these immature collegiate females are relentlessly programmed to continuously assert themselves as “strong and independent”, there’s a complete cognitive dissonance for them when they must become seductive and submissive to induce the attraction and aggression necessary for a male (both psychologically AND physically) to desire and complete the sex act.
To a large degree, the fine art of female seduction of the male is incompatible with the dogmatic (but false) self-belief that the female must always be “strong and independent” because it is generally necessary to drop that “strong and independent” demeanor for successful seduction.
Plus “strong and independent” isn’t even the default position for females in the higher kingdom anyway, because as soon as they become pregnant and must take care of offspring, it’s generally necessary to have a capable, supporting male partner to successfully raise the offspring into maturity. In point of fact, almost all females subconsciously seek a good provider for that very reason whether they consciously realize it or not, which provides yet more cognitive dissonance for those immature collegiate females who have been relentlessly brainwashed into believing that they must always be “strong and independent”.
In other words, good luck with that ...