Posted on 09/03/2017 6:04:56 PM PDT by BJ1
A divorce coach who charges $2,500 a session to advise women how to leave their husbands has insisted she is not a “marriage wrecker.”
Single Emma Heptonstall ditched her high-flying job as a lawyer and set herself up as a self-proclaimed “divorce alchemist” — teaching mainly women, but occasionally men, how to have “happy splits.”
The 44-year-old said: “I’m the divorce alchemist for ladies who leave. I know some people think I am not in a position to advise, having never been married, but I think that makes me objective.”
“I’m not going to compare my situation with other people’s because I haven’t been in it.”
Heptonstall, who currently lives in York but will soon be moving to West Sussex, admitted most of the women she helped — a staggering 90 percent — were having affairs.
But she says she doesn’t judge her clients.
She added: “The reason that people cheat is because they are unhappy. I don’t sit in judgment. That’s not my job. My job is to coach people through their divorces.”
“While most of the women who are leaving their husbands, about 90 percent are doing so because they have had or are intending to have an extramarital affair, it is not the only reason.”
Heptonstall, who launched her business in January 2015, has seen it go from strength to strength.
A one-day session with her, with a written action plan, costs $2,500, while a three-month action plan costs double that — and some clients have stayed for as long as 12 months.
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Moving to England will be great for this woman’s chosen trade. Her chances of royally POing a Muslim will now go through the roof.
The odds of them being able to accomplish this are less than the odds of them winning the lottery the way things work now.
There are dads that are deadbeats; do not want a relationship with their children, are not willing to pay child support. What I see more often though are women using the law like a baseball bat to keep men out of the children's lives, convincing the children their father is a horrible person that does not care about them, and at the same time milking every dime out of the man- most of which is not in any way used for the children.
The women that do this are not doing it because they care about the children, they are doing it for spite and in order to collect every cent possible from the man.
While the women are doing all of that, what are the men doing? They are working hard to pay for everything.
That lifestyle is not for all of us, but it is not wrong for those of us that wanted or still want to live that way. To each his own, but your remarks are degrading to women that choose to live that lifestyle.
You need to understand just as there are women who would never live that way there are many that choose to live that way. Even now. In fact the numbers of stay at home wives/mothers are trending up right now.
That is the problem with women and men that game the system. They cause people with real issues to look like they are trying to game the system.
There are men that beat women and abuse children. When a judge hears that over and over and it turns out to not be true they get jaded and stop believing when they hear it. That is serious because you can end up with dead women and children when it is true. There are men that would leave wife and children penniless while living it up with a new girlfriend or wife, has happened and still does. That is why the system is in place for the wives that want to take every penny from a man.
All the bad of marriage or divorce is not only on one side of the equation.
People just need to be real picky in choosing a mate, it is just that our heart does not always ask our brain for advice.
I have seen men marry women that are every bit as bad as some in this thread are saying. I have seen women end up with abusers that do not care about their wife or children. Alcoholism, drug addiction, cheating, ETC can and do go both ways. I do have to say when I have known the people personally there are warning signs all along, they are just often ignored.
Look up “is my wife an emotional bully” is on the internet.
A lot of this behavior is just that... men do it as well..
A man can be picky in choosing his mate. But people change. The person you are married to 5 years after your wedding is not necessarily the same person you married.
The number of virgin grooms and brides is exceedingly low. Low enough that you can say for all practical purposes, a couple getting married have already had sex together. That bonds those two together and makes it even harder to see flaws in each other.
>>>You need to understand just as there are women who would never live that way there are many that choose to live that way. Even now. In fact the numbers of stay at home wives/mothers are trending up right now.<<<
I believe you’re the first woman to defend being a SAHM on one of these threads that I have read in the last month. I personally don’t see the appeal of a woman burning the candle at both ends. To me, life is better to live modestly on one income than to have more material affluence. But I’m a man and I don’t fully understand what is driving women out of the home, putting their kids in daycare and going to work full time.
Good for you to choose family first.
“To each his own, but your remarks are degrading to women that choose to live that lifestyle.”
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I DID live that lifestyle.
My point was that it was work,lots of work,and some of the men posters were portraying it as a paradise existence——the good old days.
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We hired a college grad right out of his internship and into a high-paying high-tech job. I had worked with him prior for about 2-3 months and really got to like him. So I took him aside after he was offered the job and wanted to give him some "fatherly advice" about avoiding women (particularly college seniors) who might be looking to "put the hook" in him. Found out later his "girlfriend" was already pregnant, and didn't want to marry him, but wanted all the bennies that he could provide.
Can you say "child support for the next 20 year?"...
Sure you can!
A divorcing husband and wife should get what they paid in, so if he paid for 90% of the house, he deserves 90% of its value.
Being a stay at home parent is easy.
Uh not necessarily. courts adopt the concept of mutually obtained value. did she quit work or take lesser job or not go to college, to take care of house that attritted 500,000? Did she support his career? How much value do you put in companionship, love, raising kids together.
your numerical formula is rarely use in my experience. of course I’m in Cal.
Being a stay at home parent is easy.
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Troll someone else. I really don’t have the patience to deal with your women issues today.
Maybe you guys can start your own man whining forum. There sure do seem to be a enough of you.
Examples please.
How much value do you put in companionship, love, raising kids together?
Women should not be compensated in divorce for any of those things by money made by the man or by a share in the value of any property or other things paid for by the man.
Regarding the relationship, that presumably was a mutual thing, not something that one owes the other cash for.
Regarding raising the couple's children, the parent getting to do so more than the other within the marriage is getting a benefit, not a burden, and if anything should compensate the other parent for the home and family time that the other parent didn't get.
Sorry, but we’re you here?
Do you know me?
Do you know my ex wife?
We’re you here to see the years of her affairs with co workers, bosses, ex boyfriends, etc...?
Were you a witness to her manipulation over the years?
The answer is no.
Save your judgement for your own life, please.
Assuming that the decision to leave has already been made, it seems wise to get counseling on how to do so efficiently.
I would have been 2nd of 3
“Carefully” would be my advice.
Thank you, Mears.
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