perhaps you've learned all that "friend" can offer:
Posted on 06/16/2017 10:07:51 AM PDT by V K Lee
Dear X,
You and I had a sweet friendship: we raised children and discussed husbands together; we traded perennials and casseroles in times of need; we visited one another in funeral homes, hospitals and churches; we met one another’s families; we babysat and cleaned and laughed and cried together. I was the reason you homeschooled; you were the reason my dad got proper health assistance when he needed it.
You unfriended me. When you unfriended me from Facebook, I cared not. But you also unfriended me from your life. That hurt deeply and it still does. Even though I never supported him until it came time to vote, you unfriended me because I spoke in Donald Trump’s defense one too many times―while you campaigned relentlessly for HRC and insisted she was the hope of the future. That was it, nothing more. We never even exchanged volleys of words or ideas, until it was time for you to tell me why I was gone.
Why am I writing this so many months after the event itself? I will not even send this to you. You will probably never see it. But I feel it necessary to put the words on paper in light of yesterday’s shooting at the baseball field.
You say you support the Democratic Party. You support their ideals and politics. You are a respected woman in the community—a woman with elite degrees that few attain, a wife of a successful man. And yet you support a party of fools. The party you support is associated with pink vagina hats; congressmen flipping the bird toward our president while leading chants of “F*** Trump!”; women demonstrating naked to make some sort of mysterious point; lies spewed constantly and regurgitated ad nauseum; a candidate who lied and cheated and stole and violated the laws of our hallowed land; a comedienne holding a faux severed, bloody head of our sitting president; and, today, a marksman searching out members of the opposite party and successfully gaining purchase. Your party instigates hatred and violence and judgment.
What does this have to do with you, you ask? You would never do any of those things, so why am I so angry and tying these malevolent acts to you? Because you, my old friend, are one and the same. It all begins personally, it all begins at home.
If you cannot even abide a difference with an old, loved friend, you are fomenting the very intolerance that your party seethes over. You are raising children to be as short-sighted and critical as you, who will not be able to think critically to discover the truth for themselves. You are insulating yourself from differences that might expand your worldview, preferring instead your insular existence built on half-truths.
That is the reason for this letter. Truth must reside within us, as must respect for our fellow man. Without those, we are lost, and lost forever. It is only when we can shake hands across the proverbial aisle with open eyes and a care for one another that supersedes differences that true change can be evinced.
May God bless us all.
Except for John Adams between 1801 and 1811.
Ole Tom never had to deal with this degree of absolute rabid insanity in his day.
“That’s why they are so upset.”
Don’t forget they were really upset with George Bush.
I would cut complete tie(s) with anyone who THINKs HRC is the one true hope for this country.
Period. Sharing casserole or not.
Many people, on both sides, believe they have to be right and anyone who disagrees with them is attacking them personally. I have many close friends who disagree with me politically but I make it my goal to express myself without making it appear I am attacking them. I believe in the subtle dig.
I support their right to be wrong. However, I know which ones to jettison.
He kept his true self hidden really well those many years.You are better off without the prick.
Jennifer, Be advised the Democrats are starting to kill Republicans. Be careful.
I had a friend from childhood unfriend me over politics. We grew up together and were what I thought was great friends.
He was always posting crap from politico and slamming republicans, yet he always denied he was a democrat.
So after the re-election of Obummer, I posted on fake book: here’s an idea for you democrats to make some banners.
“Democrats, including communists, socialists.You might have them abbreviate that to save printing costs.”
That was it, unfriended. Not a word since 2012.
He could sure dish out the dirt, but couldn’t take any in return.
Oh well...
Living the hermit life here in East Tennessee, and lovin’ it.
I can accept that. What is unacceptable is sitting quietly being lampooned time and again due to your political beliefs (right to own fire arms) and required to sit quietly as they spew their venom for those who do believe they’ve every right to do so. Silent no more means loss of many pen pals and creates a distance between family members. Thank goodness there are dogs who are more tolerant and loving than some humans in society.
Well, just to distinguish how *I* happen to use the word, I don’t use FB nor do I consider FB “friends” to be real world “friends”. If you do and find it useful or valuable, I have zero problem with that. I actually wish I *did* use it and *did* find it useful. I happen to find it an astounding security risk I am unwilling to take. I was a member for about 45 minutes a few years ago.
I would wager good money, though, that nobody on FR, not a single one, has NOT had the experience of someone they *thought* was a friend or acquaintance (talking real-world) abruptly drop all contact after one or more pro-Trump or pro-Conservative thoughts were expressed.
:-)
The fact he didn’t go there is certainly not due to their crappy food. Chic Fil A is a real treat around these parts. Their sandwiches are Yuge and awesome.
Great, and sad, letter.
I have 4 cousins (at least) who are the same. None of them even had the simple decency to respond to an invitation to my son’s Bar Mitzvah. I didn’t expect any to come - they live far away and it is expensive to travel - but at least a simple card or email saying congrats to my 13-year-old son who never did anything to them. No gift required, just a simple acknowledgement from reasonably close family that my son even exists.
Well, PHUCK’EM! If that’s the way they are over a simple political difference, then they aren’t worth a damn anyway. That is the last invitation that they’ll ever get from me for any reason. I will attend my aunt’s funeral some day, just because she is a decent person and (despite almost identical political differences) someone who put family first (and, especially if my mother, her sister, is alive, so as not to upset her). I will be decent to them, but not the least bit warm. I’ll leave the worries about warmth to their afterlife.
Again, PHUCK’EM! People like this are hard-hearted and self-centered enough to be worthy of avoidance. But despite knowing that, it is sad to have had any illusions about them being decent people with lots in common with me, completely destroyed.
“The only exception in the article is the term “marksman,” in referring to the psycho who tried to assassinate those republican representatives. He was no marksman.”
Heh, yeah I just had a good friend of ~5 years dump me for Trump support. I’d never talked politics with him, but he found me on social media through my cell number. Talk about intolerant...
On the flip side, at least I know how much of a “friend” he was.
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