As I’ve said, I don’t think the women in the article really know what they want.
But even when I was young and dating in the ‘70s, it was hard to find a young man who wanted to marry young and didn’t expect a girl to fall into bed with him very soon, with no commitment. They had avidly bought-into the ‘free love’, no-responsibility idea, and there were plenty of women who bought-into it with them to whom they could turn, instead of taking on responsibility.
Also, a lot of young adults now were brought up by extremely indulgent parents who spoiled them; they haven’t got a realistic awareness of life and responsibility, or the beauty and reward that settling down and dealing with real life entail. (And there’s a lot of truth in what utahagen stated in post 117.)
If you teach your kids to have real character and to recognize and value it in others, they will be immune to a lot of the negative aspects of culture, media, etc. - or at least learn their lessons sooner and less painfully.
I think that people are generally more selfish today than past generations, and neither sex has a monopoly on that. But I also know too many bright, idealistic young people to be depressed about the future. As a culture, we will learn from all of this and get over it.
“As I’ve said, I don’t think the women in the article really know what they want.”
That brings up a good point. Whenever you hear women being interviewed, or read their dating-site profile, they say they want “a romantic man who loves poetry and long walks on the beach”.
She finds that exact guy and marries him and, yet two years later, she runs off with Snake the leader of a motorcycle gang. When asked about why she left her “perfect” husband for Snake, she will say “Oh, he’s so boring. All he wants to do is recite poetry and take long walks on the beach.”
“I think that people are generally more selfish today than past generations, and neither sex has a monopoly on that. But I also know too many bright, idealistic young people to be depressed about the future. As a culture, we will learn from all of this and get over it.”
Very true JT. However I’m not nearly as optimistic as you are. I’m afraid we might go the way of Europe, which is a rapid descent.