This article touches on some of the problems for the ladies. Namely there aren't enough marriagable men to go around. That sounds like discrimination against men to me. Sure you might want Joe to fix your car, but not as a husband. Also the article points out men are failing, women are succeeding. And she concludes the more educated women are going to be unmarried in greater and greater numbers. I conclude that women who have a college degree can't bring themselves to marry a blue collar guy in sufficient numbers that would allow them to get married and have children.
I find this article fascinating that women are spending time and effort to make it less likely they will get married and have a family.
Ask Laz......
This trend may be partly due to an increasing imbalance in the number of marriageable men and women at all levels of society. For example, women have attended and graduated from college at higher rates than men for some years now, and in 2010 women receiving doctoral degrees outnumbered men for the first time.
So they are accepting as a given, as a fact of life not to be questioned, that women will marry someone with an equal or greater formal education than themselves. The entire premise of this article is that women cannot abide a husband who does not have a certain level of education/income. In other words, they are accepting as engraved in stone, the “law” that women must marry up.
“This trend may be partly due to an increasing imbalance in the number of marriageable men and women at all levels of society. **** For example, women have attended and graduated from college at higher rates than men for some years now, and in 2010 women receiving doctoral degrees outnumbered men for the first time.****”
How is this an imbalance or a shortage of men?
Is it down to the lake I fear?
Red pill.
Yeah, and guys who go ski-diving or skate-boarding on weekends (overwhelmingly male activities) are likewise wasting valuable time they could have spent looking for young wives.
Fascinating... not.
The article is pretty pointless, because its sole solution is "kiss it up to God."*
Regards,
*Perhaps this expression is unclear outside Roman Catholic circles: It's what the nuns who taught us in elementary / high school used to say when we came to them with a problem (heartache, etc.): Offer up your pain to God as an offering of love, etc.
Didn't really help most of the time.
That article basically said everything these arrogant single women should do to cope with no husbands....except of course, to see the value in the decent men all around them.
Thumbs down.
That article basically said everything these arrogant single women should do to cope with no husbands....except of course, to see the value in the decent men all around them.
Thumbs down.
I’ve seen several articles over the past few years bemoaning the fact that now that sex is readily available from so man women, men don’t see a “need” to get married. They settle into the single life and some of it looks like a regression to their teens/twenties “fun” years. Except it goes on and on.
I’ve seen some “studies” that say men feel threatened dating/marrying a woman who earns more, has more education. I think it goes the other way too - women seeking a bread winner for their kids. I’ve known few women who are disdainful of non “status” men (blue collar). Most women I’ve known want someone reliable, honest, dedicated to supporting a family. My info is just anecdotal on that score.
I just think it’s more complicated than your post. Many layers and contributing factors - not just “women are shallow and stupid”.
As a father of three young women who are in the “Ready to Marry” zone, I can tell you that the vast majority of young men in their 20’s just aren’t mature enough to assume leadership of a home.
I have news for the author of this article, marriage rates started to decline with the tail end of the baby boomers. That's when women started to put family and especially husbands dead last in their priorities. And they managed to revamp the legal system so marriage was their winning lottery ticket via divorce.
Men tried to hang in there. But they have increasingly realized that marriage provides them no benefits and virtually guarantees loss. That is a contract men are now refusing to sign.
For those women who wanted to wear the pants in the family, well, they got the pants but lost the family. Am sure they will take comfort in their later years about having great careers but no husband, children, or grandchildren.
In the meantime, western civilization crumbles.
Any article on this issue that does not discuss the horrific bias against men in divorce courts - that makes marriage a very unattractive option - is not worth the paper it is printed on.
What the feminists have created, the feminists have to live with.
Men choose not to join in that trap.
Eh, start with the 60’s perhaps and the feminist movement, the gay movement, the equality movement - the utter destruction of traditional morality, the family, and marriage, and the war on children (abortion so women can slut around like men and not have to face the consequences).
There are so many layers to the present mess that it’s not as simple as all women are stupid or all men are dogs. Now we have a new generation of helpless, mindless snowflakes who won’t be able to handle reality and may not be able to keep jobs or ever act like grownups at all. Society is a wreck and seems to be disintegrating into total anarchy and war in the streets.
The so-called “progressive” social re-engineering crap has completely failed. Traditional society was more sane, even though it had its problems. Those days are gone. Thank the democrats, who wanted this chaos and now have it in spades.
I find it appropriate when people who refuse to marry ultimately find themselves unloved and alone as they age.
God presents us his plan.
rejecting that plan has a built in consequence.
There is a simple reason why men are more reluctant than ever to get married - it’s a cost-benefit analysis.
Traditionally men have gotten married for the following reasons:
1. Easy availability of reasonably regular sex
2. Social pressure
3. Status symbol of having a wife and family
4. companionship, having a partner to build a satisfying life together
In doing a cost-benefit analysis, one needs to look at what choices one has in securing what he wants.
In the case of 1, sex has never been easier to obtain outside of marriage, thanks to the sexual revolution and feminism, and there are few if any strings attached. So marriage loses out regarding reason 1.
Reason 2. Social pressure to be married is almost non existing today, so marriage loses out in that regard.
Reason 3. Social status of having a family. That is still there to some extent but much less so. And with the disbandment of the nuclear family, you can have a “family” without marriage. But I would grant that marriage still has some value in this regard.
Reason 4. Companionship, having a partner to build a life together. This like 3, is still there, but again to a lesser extent, and can be also achieved outside of marriage in a socially acceptable way.
So the benefits of marriage for a man have gone down.
If we look at the “costs” associatd with marriage for a man we have.
1. A legal system that is more biased than ever against married men, both in terms of custody and finances. So if you end up with the wrong partner you will have hell to pay.
2. The probability of finding the “right” partner has gone down quite a bit with the advent of ever more radical feminism. Women, especially college educated women have been brainwashed into believing that men must accommodate their whims and idiosyncrasies to the point that men have to alter their own nature. Men have to become soft and effeminate - they have to betray their own nature. Ironically, if they comply, this will only result in the women further losing respect for the men, because notwithstanding their brainwashed external attitude, their deep down natural yearning is for a strong man that can provide and take care of them.
The more radical ones have also been taught that all sex is rape, so your easily available married sex is fraught with risk if you end up with the wrong woman.
This lower probability of locating the “right” woman significantly increases the probability of paying hell for the mistake. Who needs that?
So with marriage benefits for men going down and with costs sharply higher, it makes perfect sense that rational males are passing on marriage.
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Hey, I have a college degree and mr. mm doesn’t.
He’s the primary bread winner, always has been, and I’m what he once called *hopelessly domestic*.
Sure I could have gone out and supported myself. Matter of fact, I had 10 years in at the company I worked at, enough for a pension, when I quit to get married and be a stay at home wife and mother. I finished up my degree so that if anything happened to mr. mm I would be marketable with a college degree and 10 years of work experience.
We homeschooled our kids and ALL three of them have finished college and are working on graduate degrees.
The problem isn’t so much a lack of marriageable men but the expectations that everyone goes into marriage with and the entitlement mentality BOTH sides have.