Posted on 12/08/2016 4:27:03 PM PST by Vision
I can't find a decent answer on this and women are making all these claims nowadays. Years ago in biology 201 its seemed that after 35 health risks rise dramatically for child and mother. How long can the average women safely have healthy babies? Just an average, no freezing of eggs stories, etc.
PROUD OF YOU!
You are correct that this is misinformation, but I don't think it accounts for why women are marrying later and having babies later. Except for the wackiest of extreme lefties, most women are open to falling in love in college and to marrying the boys/men they fall in love with. Paradoxically, the pressure against this — pressure against the guys and the girls — comes ; from the parents, who want them to focus on college, then grad school, then career...plus, there's no stigma anymore against premarital sex anymore, so...the years pass. I don't know any women who “put off” marriage; it simply happened when it happened. And the same when it came to having babies.
Don’t assume late in life babies are a result of feminists choosing career over marriage/family.
We tried for 10 years and had miscarriages, infetility issues, surgeries etc. We finally gave up after one top IVF Drs in the country said our chances were slim to none even with IVF (he was wrong since I got pregnant naturally 6 months later)
This is very true. A woman who has had multiple kids has a better chance of having a child in her 40s. Definitely. A woman who has never given birth who starts in her 40s has a rougher time.
And, again, while birth defects increase with the age of the mother, FAR MORE FREQUENTLY, the problem is staying pregnant at all. Miscarriages will occur 50-90% of conceptions after 41. This is a devastating risk. Plus there are more of many other kinds of abnormalities with older eggs. Things you might not notice right away with your child.
It’s tricky business. And some women are facing these risks in their 30s.
//How old will you be when you are having to put up with the kid’s teen-aged drama?//
Old enough and wise enough to handle it better than the one who had them at 17
I have had 20 years between my first child and my 4th (last) and I truly don’t feel it was physically much harder. In my 20s I couldn’t keep up with a toddler either. Who can?? You just let them run around in a safe place and all is well.
And my pregnancy was healthier this time around (paleo very low carb, very little weight gain, sprint running uphill for the first 4 months, etc. The first time, I just ate a ton and sat around at work!
Perhaps but there are other benefits to being older. Finances and time. My husband and I are retired and snowbirds. We have a good income and lots of time. We can focus all of our energy (and we still have a lot) on our daughter, we can homeschool, we have had our careers. We are not distracted.
Thanks for clearing that up.
My mom had her last baby at 41. She thought she was infertile so she was shocked when she got pregnant at 41. The baby was healthy, so I guess Mom dodged a bullet. They weren’t trying to have a baby. They just didn’t believe in birth control and assumed she was infertile at that age. The joke was on her.
Oh that is a crock. My body was just fine and my daughter is well above average, not slow.
“1/30 is a very high rate. That is 35000 affected in a million births. Sorry, but that is a very high rate for a birth defect of any kind.”
“That’s 3%. Still tinier than my risk of getting Barrett’s Esophagus due to major reflux.”
I gave the numbers rather than an assessment of those numbers because it’s a personal decision. Children are wonderful. The commitment if things go badly is lifelong. That’s an individual decision.
It’s not the male as long as testosterone and sperm are still strong and viable, but the female, our hormones start falling off about mid 30’s we start producing less eggs. Mick’s girlfriend is 29. Big difference in biology.
The conventional ‘wisdom’ is 35 for a first baby, but that goes down if it is not the first.
Had the first at 21, for a total of 4 with the last at 32. Since the last 2 were C sections had my tubes tied after the last as at the time 2 C Sections were the prevailing safety standard.
Down’s is the big risk factor with a first after 35, after 40 it goes up with any child, still prevailing thinking from OB-GYN’s.
ALL boys BTW.
Good for you and your daughter. You beat the odds. Your beating the odds, however, does not change the fact that 32 is the oldest sure-safe age for carrying a baby.
Not only are there increased risks, but think of the poor child: Mom at 45 means she is 63 when the child graduates high school. Mom won’t be around in any useful capacity for marriage or college or to see the grandchildren.
I think people having children late in life are simply treating children as property they want and do not think of the children at all.
“Mom won’t be around in any useful capacity for marriage or college or to see the grandchildren.”
What,exactly, is “useful capacity” when dealing with an adult child?
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At 45 years old, a grandparent is more likely to be around and not medically incapacitated than a 65 or 75 year old grandparent. Did I really have to spell that out to you??
“At 45 years old, a grandparent is more likely to be around and not medically incapacitated than a 65 or 75 year old grandparent. Did I really have to spell that out to you??”
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I guess we just made a mistake electing a 70 year old president.
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