You are correct. The best way to counter their recruiting here is to promote our culture and religion instead of denigrating it.
My point was that we have lost the stomach for waging war against our enemies civilian population. Wars always continue until it is too painful for the civilians to continue supporting it.
Waging war intentionally against the civilians is not in fact the act of a warrior, but of a murderer. It is terrorism, an ISIS-level violation of Divine and Natural Law.
I want to overcome them. By practicing murder, we would merely become them.