My Mom

[Empireoftheatom48]

My Mom who is 101 years old fell in the bathroom, 10:30 this morning. She needed 16 stitches at the ER. Called 911 and they came firefighters first and then EMT's. Things went well, but of course she is pretty sore. However, 6:00 pm we get a doorbell ring. It's the police, they say they are here for a welfare check. Well ok, I introduce them to my Mom who is sitting in my easy chair, she is happy for the attention. So I ask is this normal procedure. Well the young policeman, says that the EMT or Firefighter, thought someone was drunk at the time. 10:30! In the morning? No one was drunk, at any time. The question is should I let this go, or get a lawyer. It really ticks me off.

[Buttons12]

I just asked my wise elders about this situation, here’s the advice...and they’ve been there.

Be nice. Make a donation to the local cops or fd and write a letter to the editor about how thoughtful they were and how grateful you are.
This will pacify them.
It will probably bring you peace too, but if not, stick some pins in their dolls until you move on naturally.

[norwaypinesavage]

You may still have an issue of "who pays for the ambulance ride". Several years ago, my daughter cut her hand while pitting an avocado for supper. There was serious bleeding and she was alone, so she called 911. They transported her to the hospital for stiches.

However, in their report, they stated that the injury was not severe enough to require transportation, so insurance didn't pay. The report never mentioned, of course, anything about driving with one hand with the other bleeding all over the car, with the likelihood of fainting. My daughter later received a bill for nearly $1,000 for the ride.

The report might state that you were "too drunk to drive" and that was the cause of needing an ambulance. I would ask for a copy of the report.

[HotHunt]

I find it amusing that grown people like yourself, need to ask the readers of an internet blog, should you get a lawyer or not.

When did our own individual judgement go out the window? This kind of decision is not made by consensus from a bunch of unrelated people on the internet. It is your decision.

Besides, why would you need a lawyer? For what reason? To sue someone? For what? You're barking up the wrong tree and looking for trouble where there is none.

You should count your blessings that your mother is fine and be glad it wasn't worse. You've got your priorities all screwed up.

[Daffynition]

Cool your heels HH; you haven’t been around these parts long enough to know that FReepers are some of the most knowledgeable and compassionate people n this planet. I for one, value their life experiences. Their advice/sharing personal experiences is most often, spot on.

Hope you never have to deal with a government employee who pulls stuff out of their @XX.

FWIW, I had to deal with an animal control person in our town, with a bat issue, the other night. She said: *We have new laws and regulations all the time, and we are not trained on how to apply the laws and regs to situations in our department.*

Ponder that for a moment. Good luck.

*I’m from the government and I’m here to help you.*

[HotHunt]

You assume wrongly. I have been around FR for over a decade.

You sound like you think you have the corner on the intelligence market. You don't.

Ponder that for a moment....

[SaraJohnson]

They do strange stuff.

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Which is why everyone is pissed off at them.

[ThePatriotsFlag]

Unfortunately, for the firemen, your incident was probably the rarity. If you could see what they run into most of the time and on a daily basis, they HAD to ask that question. I bet they walked out saying to themselves...”Darn, a normal household...don’t see that too often!”

[gloryblaze]

I am glad your Mom will be OK. A fall at that age can be nasty. Just be sure someone has a medical power of attorney for her if the need arises. Just be very sure...

[Empireoftheatom48]

I have medical and general power of Attorney.

[Empireoftheatom48]

Bless your heart!

[HotHunt]

I live in the South. You’re not fooling me...

[gloryblaze]

I have medical and general power of Attorney.

Good to hear. I wish you and your family the very best!

p.s. Thanks for your and your son's service.

[Dawgreg]

Exactly Rusty....like I said those of us who gave our parent good care are thrown into the mix with those who are suspect in bad care of the elderly. Just ain’t fair......;(

[Daffynition]

HAHAHA!

Class of '98 here.

You're the one who assumes wrongly, displaying poor manners.

Projecting on Empire's choice of info gathering.

[HotHunt]

I was only trying to defend my comment but my my big red Crayola strayed outside the lines a little. I apologize if my manners didn't satisfy your needs. But you're right, of course.

I read your bio page. Funny stuff. You seem like a nice guy. Have a good day.

[Daffynition]

[HotHunt]

I'm not really a big coulda', woulda', shoulda' kind of guy myself....

:-)

[doorgunner69]

And if everything is on the up and up they probably won’t pry unnecessarily.

You have far more trust in cops than I do. Best not have anything in view that catches their interest, however unrelated.

[beelzepug]

I must be the only one who read your link. People are all saying you ought to forget it and that the responders HAVE to ask the question. If I understood you, the problem was that the EMT did NOT ask the question but did write up his suspicions in his report. If the police had not come to your house and a similar incident happened again, you most certainly would have been taken in for an unpleasant questioning session on elder abuse and would have no idea why.

I spent 20+ years in quality assurance at an aerospace company. We had a rule that “If it isn’t in writing, it didn’t happen.” An opposite rule applies here, “If is in writing, it did happen”, even if it didn’t.

Your choice, but I certainly would follow up.

[Daffynition]