There were many questions and remarks concerning my mother, that also went unasked. My sisters and I decided out of diplomacy, not to bring Mom up to our Dad unless he did first. This meant ignoring their Wedding Anniversary too, unless, again, he clearly wished to talk about it.
I was in the car crash that killed my mother, but being six years old, had no idea what was going on. I suppose my older sister might know, but she being a rabid liberal, we have no communication these days.