I tried to keep my husband engaged. He liked to work, and in addition to going to our land to build the cabin, he would take a broom outside and sweep the sidewalk from one end of the block to the other. However, one day he reached the point where he forgot to come back and just keep sweeping. I called the police and they found him sweeping 10 blocks away. I could never let him go out alone again. He was sociable, ate my good food, water and vitamins. As his memory shortened he forgot his previous resentments and angers. I never tried pushing the analytic work, but instead of watching the intricacies and speed of football and basketball, he could follow soccer for a while and golf until the end. Even though for the last year he could only say 2 or 3 words together, one day we were watching a speech by a politician and he said very emphatically Bull Shxx, and I must say he was right on with his analysis.
If the blaming has a paranoid quality, you might ask the doctor about using Respiradol.
Her blaming is more linked to denial.
She is obsessed with her meds and trying to understand them. She even tried to draw pictures of them but she can’t understand “Take 1 per day in the morning”. It either baffles her or she resents not having control.
But when she goes to the Dr and he asks if she takes any medication, she always says she doesn’t take anything. “Do you take any medications?” “Nope”. Then she’ll immediately ask them about a medicine she is taking.