Yeah, that's what's got me confused. I'm thinking are you a psychologist and this is something you're discussing with patients? If you're just an average guy/gal - why on earth are you discussing this stuff at work? Especially after you apparently were written up about it. Seems very odd to me. And if you were discussing at work, how did your bosses find out? Seems it would be a closed conversation between you and someone else. If I had these issues, believe me, I would not be discussing such things where other co-workers could overhear and actually, being me, I would never discuss these issues at work anyway. Very weird....
Other people at work are discussing these matters.
In some cases, I was reported by others in the conversation for “homophobic” remarks. In others, the instant message conversation I had was sent to HR.