We sell lots of both at the shop where I work. Even big guys report that .40 has an uncomfortable recoil.
In my mind there is exactly one .40 that doesn't shoot like too much gun stuffed into a 9mm frame. H&K.
Its the only .40 I've ever actually enjoyed shooting.
” Even big guys report that .40 has an uncomfortable recoil.”
I have a .40. Never bothered by the recoil and I am not a big guy.
That's because they are not shooting the Beretta Model 96 with 5+ inch barrel and a little heft.
My 357 M&P has more recoil than my brothers 40 M&P, but its something you get used to with range time.
40 or 9? If it don’t buck me a little, it won’t buck the target much either. 40 cal any day.