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I have a good friend who I have known for forty years, since childhood, who was molested by her older brother. Her father covered it up. She is not particularly interested in how either of them are doing with it.

My ex-wife has been a mental health counselor for the past 25 years. I know all to well how common this kind of thing is, and it’s horrified me as I’ve found it out over my life.

When I was a teenager, I was responsible for care of cousins who were toddler to around ten years old. I have raised two children to adulthood. I have absolutely no sympathy for a person who does this kind of horrible act, and it’s far too often covered up and people go unpunished when it happens.

I was never molested, but I was adopted as an infant into a family with a Southern Baptist mother and an alcoholic father who only attended church because my mother made him. They were a successful family but home was a nightmare. My dad was an angry drunk, and while I was never molested, I was afraid of him until I was old enough and large enough through football and weighlifting at about 16 that I knew he couldn’t hit me anymore. I also knew I could never hit him back, because if I did, I wouldn’t stop until I was in handcuffs. I moved 3000 miles away when I had my kids because I didn’t want them growing up around him. I’ve made my peace with him, but it hasn’t been easy and it’s taken more than 40 years.

I have zero sympathy for people who terrorize children.

My mother is a devout Baptist and one of the adult members of the church who had grown up in the church went to prison because he he got angry with his newborn son and threw him against the wall and killed him. People in the church were horrified, but as he sat in prison, talk soon turned to how awful it was for him there and what a good faithful boy he was and how sorry he was. I don’t have sympathy for people who do this kind of crap to kids.

“I have a good friend who I have known for forty years, since childhood, who was molested by her older brother. Her father covered it up. She is not particularly interested in how either of them are doing with it.”

You think the actions this father took are comparable to your friend’s experience? I think the fact that this man has owned up to what he did, acknowledged it happened, took full responsibility for it, did not hide it from the girl he married before he married her, all indicate that how the father handled it was not “covering it up”. Maybe the father should print up t-shirts that say my oldest son molested his younger sisters and wear that everywhere he goes so he isn’t covering it up. Or maybe he should just admit he is a failure as a father and turn all of his children over to CPS where they can be raised by a nice homosexual couple. Obviously, the government authorities on children are much more trustworthy and educated than this ultra-right-wing-tea-party dad. /s

“I have zero sympathy for people who terrorize children.”

And if you could be God for a day I am sure you could do a much better job of fixing these moral evils than Him. Enough with this nasty forgiveness idea (unless the sins are little ones like all of mine are). /s

No one asked for your sympathy. This man has paid an awful price for what he did. And he will continue to pay. That will not undo his actions. That will not heal the girls involved. But neither will damning him to hell. That’s what “no sympathy” really means. And if God decides not to send him to hell, then you need to decide if you can accept God’s righteousness as being greater than your own.

“I don’t have sympathy for people who do this kind of crap to kids.”

Again, you don’t need to. The 14 year-old boy did not sin against you. He sinned against God and these girls. They are the ones who were harmed. They are the ones who can forgive or not forgive.

Christ said if we do not forgive those who sin against us, His Heavenly Father will not forgive us either. Do you need forgiveness from God? Is there someone you have not forgiven?