If we ever manage to wind our way through the paperwork we will be parents someday.
But as much as we will love them, our marriage came first and will last long past the time they have left the nest.
If a person chooses his or her spouse wisely, they should be able to find a balance of everyone’s participation in the family, without too much difficulty. Some circumstances require prioritizing a child’s needs - a newborn infant, a serious illness or injury - but must situations are just tweaking.
Best wishes on your adoption process!