Never said they were.So can we assume that you and your wife,to use a non-life & death example,would decide to spend a week in the Caribbean,alone,in spite of your 4 year old's needing serious TLC after having had successful hip surgery? No life and death involved...just a frightened kid who's simply too young to understand that everything will be fine in just a few days/weeks.
If my child needed hip surgery, I would not plan a Caribbean vacation at the same time, if I had too, I'd cancel the vacation...hip surgery isn't like pulling a splinter (Oh' ... a strawman)
Hip surgery isn't done on the fly, they are planned weeks in advance and I would re-schedule the vacation...
Are you purposely being dense or just myopic...?