If nothing else, she just made sure she will be going to a terrible nursing home when she gets old, courtesy of her children.
If she puts her kids ahead of her husband she will get old very fast.
The judgement of the parents teaches the children. If she thinks the judgement of the children teaches the parents she will be alone soon.
I read a story about Barbara Nicklaus, Jack’s wife. They had a child when they were young and first married. She and the baby were traveling with Jack on tour. Barbara was in the gallery following Jack with the while the baby was with a babysitter. She was pining away for her child when one of the older tour wives told her that Jack was there before the children and he’ll be there when they are gone. He comes first.
She said she always followed that advice and I’d say her and Jack have done pretty well family-wise. I think one of the keys to Jack’s success is he had a wife who helped rather than caused him a lot of problems.
Not necessarily.
Many times the poorly treated child is the one who takes care of the parents and the 'chosen one' - the child who was favored - isn't around. That favored child becomes accustomed to being catered to and can be quite self-centered.