[Chickensoup]

I notice that, in my column people write to tell me about cheating boyfriends.

There is no such thing as a cheating boyfriend or girlfriend, just someone seeking new opportunity.

No commitment, no cheating.

[Telepathic Intruder]

Exactly, but with traditional social norms going out the window today, it just leaves everyone confused instead of their horizons being expanded.

[Tax-chick]

There is no such thing as a cheating boyfriend or girlfriend, just someone seeking new opportunity.

I've been saying that for years. Unless you're married (or engaged and actively preparing for marriage, like making a deposit on a venue), then there is no reasonable expectation of fidelity. You're in that relationship (as opposed to marriage) because you both want to be free to walk away or just have sex with others.

[Harmless Teddy Bear]

If you have been with someone long enough for you to be a couple you have made a commitment.

The two parties have given each other reason to depend on the other for certain societal obligations.

Fidelity is one of those obligations.

Failure to recognize that is a very good indication that the person is neither dating or marriage material.