[PapaBear3625]

A co-worker of mine endured the ultimate nightmare scenario involving his daughter. He spent over $100,000 sending her to a first-class four year college. Almost as soon as she graduated, she decided to get married and he had to pony up almost $50,000 for that.

A man I know was sneaky with his daughter. Rather than paying for the wedding, he just decided how much he was willing to pay and handed her the check, telling her "spend it as you wish, wedding, honeymoon, whatever".

Suddenly, when it was now HER money that she would be spending, she became much more frugal regarding the idea of a super-expensive one-day party, decided to instead have a small simple ceremony for close family, and put the balance toward buying a house. Heh.

[BlackAdderess]

That’s great :)

[Bigg Red]

Smart fellow.

[dmz]

That’s how we handled daughter #1 and will follow that model for #2 as well. My son’s inlaws handled it that way as well (that’s where we learned it from).

No drama. They all knew there was no coming back to the well.