When my wife asks me to do a favor for her and then when I do it she has the nerve to complain - I just look at her with a smile and say “Do it your damn self.”
She rarely complains because that’s my consistent answer unless I did it totally wrong.
Roger that. Also, if you happen to be in the middle of whatever it is that needs done and you start to get guidance just hand the tool over and ask for a demonstration;)
“I do it she has the nerve to complain - I just look at her with a smile and say “Do it your damn self.”
I should be like that - I just stop doing it.
I hear you and in most cases I agree. But there are some instances in which paying attention to details is important. For instance, if you ask your wife what she wants for her birthday and she tells you with important detail like size or measurement, and then you get one that is wrong just to look like you got her one, she will feel like it wasn't getting a gift, but just another errand she will have to run to get something she actually wants.
If she asked for an item in a certain measurement and even said "ONLY" that size when you asked her, but you got another measurement because you didn't really want to go to another store or go online to get the right one, she may feel taken for granted, or that you don't value the relationship.
As for the housework complaints, that's a long but important negotiation and couples usually sort it out by who cares the most about a given task to do it well enough.