[Nepeta]

My thought was “Damage done, sweetie”. It’s just so much easier to live without them.

I cannot stand whiners male or female.

That said, my ex was a degreed idiot who just didn't pay attention to what he was doing, frequently doing witless things that could have led to fires. I didn't want an adult child, so I left to allow him the chance to burn down his house without involving me.

[webstersII]

Then why did you marry him? So you could change him?