Posted on 12/24/2014 11:26:58 PM PST by billys kid
Remarkable man and a terrific legacy.
You are lucky and blessed.
Your daughter is an extension of you and him.
Prayers for you.
You were lucky to have a good loving spouse. I know how sad you are without him but I’m alone right now with 4 kids because my husband needs time to fulfill his responsibilities to us, and I don’t know if he ever will. I’m not alone but so very lonely too. And I don’t have that connectedness to miss. I’m happy for you that you had it, I’m happy for you and your memories. Hugs.
Great LV... Now you made ME cry... and I didn’t even need to click on your link.
Love to BK....
Uh oh. On the other thread I thought you were a woman with the alcoholic nutty boyfriend or husband. Now you are a 51 year old man! Obviously I read something wrong. (Shame face) lol.
I’m a 51 year old, “only child”. I got used to being alone. Then, I got married and suddenly (and surprisingly) felt loneliness the first few times my wife went away for short trips. I hated it so much that I prayed to God to help those who were REALLY alone, from permanent loss. What I got out of it was to get out and reach out to others.... Realizing that it’s just a sad state of mind. I know it’s just an anecdote or platitude, but please know that you’re not REALLY alone... This thread proves it and you know, ultimately, we’re ALL really alone in many ways. I’m there with you, tonight and so sorry to hear about your loss. Love, Bill
My 53 year-old wife died almost 11years ago. Time will help you but remember this; death is how good marriages end. Be well. You will be.
Merry Christmas, Yaelle.
I will pray for you. There is truth in keeping busy. Work, hobbies, other family or friends. All I have found have helped me and loved ones deal with loss. Music is helpful to me too.
Merry Christmas, Combat! I think I just saw Santa fly by! Gave him a wink. I need to get to bed but it’s so nice to have the kids in bed it’s hard not to stay up too late.
One other thing works, and it should be no distraction, but prayer, your faith, the love of God, and for Christians, the blessing of salvation through the gift of a savior, Jesus Christ. We are all part of God's plan, and it is no wonder that it's beyond our understanding.
Blessings of the Christmas season to you.
My belief is that the Lord rarely takes away someone important from your life without bringing someone else to fill that void, Sometimes, it’s the Lord Himself that wants a closer relationship. Ask the Holy Spirit to comfort you and lead you to your next source of joy and security. He will be faithful to provide the way.
God bless you this Christmas.
So very sorry to hear this.. my deepest condolences. May God lay His hands of comfort on you. Please continue to lean on friends and family as much as possible and just take each day one at a time.. God Bless.
Start a new hobby, meet some new people. Over time, you will feel better. Time is the only thing that really helps, but that first Christmas is a tough one.
Keep your chin up. Better days lie ahead, the sun will again return and life goes on.
We send our FReeper love to you and we miss that fellow as well. Not that this is much comfort but you’re in our FR family forever.
> Be gentle with yourself. Cry, kick, scream when you need to. Don’t hold back. You will be reminded of your loss at the most unexpected times and places. I would be in the grocery store and see something he really liked or that I loved surprising him with it. I couldn’t hold the tears back. Smells will remind you, and there’s no way to predict where or when that will happen. Or a song on the radio, etc. If you can’t hold the tears back, make sure you have Kleenex in your purse for such occasions. (I’d save the kicking and screaming for when you’re at home. ;-))
Very good advice. Time is the only healer. Remembering the good times with friends in their honor every once in awhile helps. This holiday season be with friends and family members and know that you are loved and not alone. I lost my mother in 2009. She had many bad health issues and was continuously in and out of the hospital for years barely able to breathe. It was hard to see her that way after knowing her in good health for years in what seemed to be another life.. I hate to say it but I was relieved when she passed away because of the suffering she had to endure when she was alive and the fact that I knew she was saved. I know she suffers no more.
I’m so sorry bills kid. It’s a rotten thing, I know. My husband died 2 and a half years ago.
Advice? I have no advice that will make it better. Just take it all a day at a time. It is tough because everything changes: your life, how people treat you (they mean well, but...), everything.
If you have faith in God then cling to that. He promises to be close to those in need who turn to Him.
I lost my Dear wife on September 9th. It is very difficult to handle that she is not here with me.
Strange as it sounds, one of my sisters told me that this horrible thing will happen to half of us blessed enough to have found our beloved spouses. I don’t know why but, that stuck with me and helped a little. Maybe the realization that I was very blessed to have shared our lives to begin with.
My children and siblings also are looking out for me. Also, there is work and FR to keep me busy and God to watch over me.
May God bless you and remember that we will all be reunited with our Lord and we will see each other again.
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