Exactly correct.
I lived in SF, and knew a homo guy who laid it out straight:
“If you have HIV, it’s sort of like you’re on this dramatic stage where a lot of attention is on you, and if you don’t, you feel sort of shunted aside and ignored..”
Sick, but true.
A lot of guys WANT to get it — “bug chasing”
yep, they feel they aren’t really a true gay if they don’t have it.