Posted on 10/16/2014 9:54:23 AM PDT by SeekAndFind
ome revolutions happen in a single day; others over decades. The rise of the voluntarily single woman has been happening in Western societies slowly, over time, concomitant with well-paying jobs, legal protection from economic or physical abuse, reliable birth control and the possibility of fulfilling careers and adventures.
Women are marrying at a later age these days, cohabiting with their partners or going in and out of short-term relationships without ever walking down the aisle.
Currently, 53% of women over 18 are in the singles column. Put another way, women now have choices that allow them to customize the arc of their lives and some of them find that it is best for them to put marriage aside.
Is this natural? Is this bad? Is this cause for alarm?
We have long counted on women's sacrifices and the compromises they've made to lift societies all over the world. We are worried that if women delay or forgo marriage, the all-important family unit will suffer. As much as I admire happy couples and families, I think this may be one of the few times in history when so many women could choose from such a full range of life choices without penalty or stigma. Since few people "have it all," why not choose being single if that's the best option?
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That’s the truth. I felt sorry for her when the “love of her life” ended their 5 year relationship. She was so sure he would eventually ask her to marry him. Later, I found out her idea of the perfect Sunday evening for the two of them was to sit down and tell him every way he had let her down or hurt her feelings during the previous week, thoroughly discuss all the details, and have him tell her how he was going to make it up to her and change so he wouldn’t do it again. I couldn’t believe he’d stayed 5 years...
That's a good way to put it: Allegiance to the Democrat Party is an attempt to use tax dollars to buy off their husbands' future mistresses. :)
What if I threw in a sandwich?
....With my blond Fabio-like hair whipping in the helicoptor breeze.....
Woman are choosing not to marry until they are almost past their expiration date.
Sounds to me that many people, of both sexes, have weighed in and have explained reasons for why people don’t want to get married.
I was talking to a group of older men recently, and one man said, he married his girlfriend back in the day, because it was the only way he could have sex.
Younger men today don’t think in those terms. We live in an era in which people have no strings attached recreational sex.
Another issue is that people of both sexes seem to be self-centered. They want the other person to “complete” them in some way, and don’t seem willing to work through the bumps and bruises involved in daily life.
It does seem that women, especially career women, feel they are sacrificing big parts of their lives, if they choose to marry and especially have children. Raising children has become just another lifestyle choice, not a life that the vast majority of people expect to be the center of their adult lives.
If some people would rather be alone than settle for an imperfect spouse, I guess there’s nothing more I can add to this discussion. They have made their choices.
You’re all sweaty? You know we’re meeting the Ferguson’s for dinner and then we’re stopping by Shady Pines to spend the evening with Mom...I am so glad you gave up your bowling night so that we could spend more time with the folks...You are getting your hair cut, right?
I'm so glad we women are always 100% honest and aboveboard with men, aren't you?
It is always the best thing for a child to grow up with good, loving parents. That is their first lesson as to what would make a good mate. If a child does not grow up with that they will have a more difficult time in knowing what to look for.
Sounds like she was not given those very important lessons while she was growing up or else she would have recognized an unfaithful character. It is like insurance for the future. Not all guys are like that. If she really wants to have a good family she should take the time to get out of her mess, pray for a good spouse and learn to be a good friend.
See my post #6. Everyone has his or her reasons, rationalizations, or inarguable positions. “Why” conversations are not, in my opinion, helpful. “This is the situation; how do we negotiate in it?” is the relevant question.
“I have a 20-year old homeless women I took in to live with me.”
That’s a heck of a story. Be careful she’s not scamming you.
Care to share your own point of view and perhaps a little of your personal experience?
LOL!
Her own mother hasn’t yet told her the circumstances surrounding her own conception. Her mother gave birth at age fifteen, and the maternal grandparents took the infant to rear. Grandma later divorced grandpa and no one, absolutely NO ONE, talks about him.
This child was given the surname of a sexual predator who is no longer in the family, which leads me to believe she was conceived in incest; a sexual predator father impregnating his own 14-year old daughter. My young friend is 20 and her mother is only 35-years old.
The mother here refuses to talk about her daughter’s dad. She has demonstrated favoritism towards her other children, but little or nothing towards her first born. Sometimes it is just damned difficult or painful to talk about such things. Should she be honest with her child? I’m just glad she allowed her daughter to be born.
She was at one time my nephew’s girlfriend, about five years ago. We’ve known her for a while.
She has always wanted to be married, have children and be a stay at home mama/home maker. In addition, she absolutely is energized by house cleaning but unfortunately cannot cook. So, I am teaching her to cook.
Yep, he put up with having to pretend to listen to her tirades in exchange for sex. He knew that as soon as marriage happened, the sex would stop.
Meanwhile, the same mentality that was always resentful of him would get her to start planning the optimum way to divorce him, while seizing the maximum amount of his wealth and future earnings.
So he strung her along for a while, and then moved on.
My story is a little like Mrs. Bill’s ... out of all my college friends, I’m the one that got married, stayed married and has multiple children.
(My co-workers are blown away that all my kids have the same dad, and he’s still with me. And they envy that.)
Out of my college friends who married, only two of the gals had two children. All the others have only one, or none, or never even got married.
And these are sweet, smart girls from Christian families who would have raised wonderful children who would have blessed the world. It didn’t happen for them. I don’t really know why.
Instead the people who DO have a lot of kids are the ones who probably shouldn’t even have responsibility for a gold fish.
Wow. That’s pretty sad.
Many women have been so indoctrinated by the feminist movement that they aren't worth being a mate with a man. A man can see it clearly so why should he make his life miserable?
Yes. I've been happily married for years -- but I've worked with a number of young(ish) women who were "trying to get married". And I just looked at them, and listened to them, and thought, "It ain't ever gonna happen -- unless you find some guy who's really, really dumb."
But these women don't seem to have a clue -- they think they are the best catch on Earth.
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