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Hugh Hefner’s dirty little secret
LIFE SITE ^ | Jonathon van Maren

Posted on 10/09/2014 9:42:04 AM PDT by Morgana

Hugh Hefner has been idolized by millions of men of dubious morals for his “Playboy” lifestyle—his huge mansion, never-ending stream of celebrity guests, and, of course, the girls. He is considered the ultimate playboy, the silk-pajamaed icon of the Sexual Revolution, the man who brought “free love” to the free market and made a killing.

He’s also sexually dysfunctional.

In her emotionally mauling book Pornland: How Porn Has Hijacked Our Sexuality, researcher Gail Dines writes how the infamous TV show "The Girls Next Door," which started in 2005, "provides a sanitized version of life at the Playboy mansion, never showing the reality of the experiences for the young women who live and sleep with eighty-three-year-old Hefner."

Perhaps most revealingly, she points out how Izabella St James, one of Hefner's 'ex-girlfriends,' has written that while Hefner would often often have unprotected sex with multiple women, he could not reach sexual completion without using pornography and stimulating himself.

That’s right. Porn, the most viral manifestation of the Sexual Revolution, is reducing millions of men to pathetic dependents desperately scrolling through thousands of pictures and videos—and causing many of them to become impotent. Even a man with a non-stop stream of beautiful women sleeping with him, one of the most easily recognizable sex icons of our time, cannot get off without porn.

But it is us, supposedly, who are “anti-sex.”

Those of us who hold to a Judeo-Christian view of sexual ethics are invariably accused of being “prudes” or “anti-sex.” Rejecting the Sexual Revolution and the host of new sexually transmitted diseases, incalculable amount of psychological physical pain, broken marriages, porn addictions, and aborted and dismembered “love” children that it brought with it, it seems, is the primary way to loudly declare yourself a cultural heretic.

Let me break it down. We, apparently, are the ones who are “anti-sex” because we elevate sex as an action of such significance that it should take place in a loving, committed context - marriage - one that is, incidentally, also the best context in which to raise children. We recognize that sex is an extraordinarily powerful human experience, one that we toy with or abuse at our peril. But the Sexual Revolutionaries insist that this is archaic and foolish. “More sex,” they say, “more sex, all the time and with whomever you’d like.”

Someone should make these people take economics. Basic rule: If you commodify something, you cheapen it. We’ve put cash prices on intimate human experiences, and we’ve created an industry that amounts to nothing more than a trade in human flesh. I’m no anti-capitalist, but some things should not be bought and sold. But now that millions have been pimped out by the Sexual Revolution, we do just that. We treat sex like a game or a toy. And, like over-enthusiastic children, we’ve broken it.

Here are just a very brief sampling of a few recent headlines:

- “Porn causing erectile dysfunction in young men”—Global News - “Internet pornography destroying men’s ability to perform with real women”—Daily Mail - “Does porn contribute to erectile dysfunction?”—Psychology Today

I often wonder why more people don’t see the sad irony in this. Like thirsty men and women guzzling salt water, we simply inflame our lusts with pornography, dehydrating ourselves of the true human intimacy we crave. Rather than recognizing it for the poison that it is, we claim that porn is a sex aid, or carefree recreation, or even a tool for helping a flagging marriage. Clinging to this cultural delusion is doing precisely the opposite of what the Sexual Revolutionaries promised us it would do: It’s killing sex.

Yet when people try to point this out—from self-described radical feminist Gail Dines to the Christian scholars who warned that this would happen before we even pried open Pandora’s Box—it is they who get called “anti-sex.”

Hugh Hefner built an empire selling the bodies of young, attractive women and men to millions, but his cash has not stopped him from becoming enslaved by his own product. When I consider that the very man who is envied by millions for the sexual lifestyle he leads can himself only find pleasure in the pale substitute for human intimacy he markets to the masses, it brings to mind something Christopher Hitchens once said, when responding to a Marxist in his audience. The quotation perfectly fits this circumstance as well.

“Well, there you have it, ladies and gentlemen. There you have it," Hitchens said. "You see how far the termites have spread, and how long and well they’ve dined.”

And so they have.


TOPICS: Education; Society
KEYWORDS: dirtyoldman; moralabsolutes; porn; sexualdysfunction
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To: skeeter
the punchline gets funnier.

Or devastatingly sadder.
61 posted on 10/09/2014 10:48:32 AM PDT by Resettozero
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To: Resettozero

Go view a single thread about a teacher sex abuse charge. And then tell me there are not a lot of dirty old men on FR.


62 posted on 10/09/2014 10:48:46 AM PDT by Vermont Lt (Ebola: Death is a lagging indicator.)
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To: Resettozero; skeeter

You know..I don’t know which? funny or sad. Either way I bet he did not see this coming when he started over 50 years ago.


63 posted on 10/09/2014 10:49:54 AM PDT by Morgana ( Always a bit of truth in dark humor.)
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To: Morgana

Not the meaning of my life.

I never understood the whole lifestyle. MOST of the fun of sex for me is having a partner who is interested in having sex with ME.

And so far, I found the best person for that about 30 years ago. No need to look further.


64 posted on 10/09/2014 10:50:08 AM PDT by Vermont Lt (Ebola: Death is a lagging indicator.)
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To: Vermont Lt
Go view a single thread about a teacher sex abuse charge. And then tell me there are not a lot of dirty old men on FR.

Don't want you on MY trial jury.
65 posted on 10/09/2014 10:51:09 AM PDT by Resettozero
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To: NorthMountain

Lately, I think the average age on FR is about 75. No one around here has a sense of humor or silliness any more.

Sometimes I feel like I am at the post service tea of a Methodist church in Iowa.


66 posted on 10/09/2014 10:52:13 AM PDT by Vermont Lt (Ebola: Death is a lagging indicator.)
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To: Resettozero

I make every effort to get out of jury duty. I don’t shower for a week before hand. And then I have a bottle of something fall out of my jacket on the way into the selection process.

Thats usually good for a dismissal.


67 posted on 10/09/2014 10:53:26 AM PDT by Vermont Lt (Ebola: Death is a lagging indicator.)
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To: Vermont Lt; Resettozero; metmom

“Go view a single thread about a teacher sex abuse charge. And then tell me there are not a lot of dirty old men on FR.”

I know what you speak of. It only happens when the teacher is female. When the teacher is male they want to form a lynch mob. I have complained but it does no good. I have posted these stories for Metmom to ping out only to have trouble. I am disturbed that women would abuse young boys, and yes that is “abuse”. If a woman had done that to my son I promise you we would all be reading about on on FR, title being “Morgana goes Ape S***”


68 posted on 10/09/2014 10:53:51 AM PDT by Morgana ( Always a bit of truth in dark humor.)
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To: Morgana; Ann Archy

We should all get nekkid.


69 posted on 10/09/2014 10:55:25 AM PDT by Lazamataz (First we beat the Soviet Union. Then we became them. We have no 'news media', only a Soviet Pravda.)
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To: Vermont Lt
Lately, I think the average age on FR is about 75. No one around here has a sense of humor or silliness any more.

Especially that Laz fellow. What a killjoy.

70 posted on 10/09/2014 10:56:47 AM PDT by Lazamataz (First we beat the Soviet Union. Then we became them. We have no 'news media', only a Soviet Pravda.)
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To: Morgana
funny or sad. Either way I bet he did not see this coming when he started over 50 years ago.

His whole-hearted acceptance of The Kinsey Report as his gospel doomed him to his lifelong hell of sheer porno pleasure, and affected many others to their detriment; some still don't realize how much detriment.

'Course, he may yet change his mind and recant what he as built.
71 posted on 10/09/2014 10:58:04 AM PDT by Resettozero
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To: Resettozero

...has built.


72 posted on 10/09/2014 10:58:33 AM PDT by Resettozero
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To: Morgana

And i was making my point in jest. A little humor.

Not too many folks around here want to laugh lately. I know it sucks out there, but having a chuckle once in a while is OK.

Too many folks are too easily offended.


73 posted on 10/09/2014 10:59:09 AM PDT by Vermont Lt (Ebola: Death is a lagging indicator.)
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To: Lazamataz

Al right Laz that’s enough


74 posted on 10/09/2014 10:59:53 AM PDT by Morgana ( Always a bit of truth in dark humor.)
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To: Lazamataz

70 posts about Playboy, and not a single pic?


75 posted on 10/09/2014 11:00:15 AM PDT by skinndogNN
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To: Lazamataz; humblegunner
Especially that Laz fellow. What a killjoy.

That's what I tried to tell HumberGunner V1.4...
76 posted on 10/09/2014 11:00:20 AM PDT by Resettozero
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To: LRoggy
He’s 88 years old, if he get off at all . . . who cares at this point if he watches porn?

Really, how many 80-something guys get off? How many are ABLE to get off, even with Viagra?

77 posted on 10/09/2014 11:01:21 AM PDT by PapaBear3625 (You don't notice it's a police state until the police come for you.)
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To: Vermont Lt
And i was making my point in jest. A little humor. Not too many folks around here want to laugh lately. I know it sucks out there, but having a chuckle once in a while is OK.


78 posted on 10/09/2014 11:02:00 AM PDT by Lazamataz (First we beat the Soviet Union. Then we became them. We have no 'news media', only a Soviet Pravda.)
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To: Vermont Lt
Too many folks are too easily offended.

Are you showing them any FR courtesy?
79 posted on 10/09/2014 11:02:18 AM PDT by Resettozero
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To: Lazamataz

You’re incorrigible!!!


80 posted on 10/09/2014 11:02:36 AM PDT by Ann Archy (Abortion.....the Human Sacrifice to the god of Convenience.)
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