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Hugh Hefner’s dirty little secret
LIFE SITE ^ | Jonathon van Maren

Posted on 10/09/2014 9:42:04 AM PDT by Morgana

Hugh Hefner has been idolized by millions of men of dubious morals for his “Playboy” lifestyle—his huge mansion, never-ending stream of celebrity guests, and, of course, the girls. He is considered the ultimate playboy, the silk-pajamaed icon of the Sexual Revolution, the man who brought “free love” to the free market and made a killing.

He’s also sexually dysfunctional.

In her emotionally mauling book Pornland: How Porn Has Hijacked Our Sexuality, researcher Gail Dines writes how the infamous TV show "The Girls Next Door," which started in 2005, "provides a sanitized version of life at the Playboy mansion, never showing the reality of the experiences for the young women who live and sleep with eighty-three-year-old Hefner."

Perhaps most revealingly, she points out how Izabella St James, one of Hefner's 'ex-girlfriends,' has written that while Hefner would often often have unprotected sex with multiple women, he could not reach sexual completion without using pornography and stimulating himself.

That’s right. Porn, the most viral manifestation of the Sexual Revolution, is reducing millions of men to pathetic dependents desperately scrolling through thousands of pictures and videos—and causing many of them to become impotent. Even a man with a non-stop stream of beautiful women sleeping with him, one of the most easily recognizable sex icons of our time, cannot get off without porn.

But it is us, supposedly, who are “anti-sex.”

Those of us who hold to a Judeo-Christian view of sexual ethics are invariably accused of being “prudes” or “anti-sex.” Rejecting the Sexual Revolution and the host of new sexually transmitted diseases, incalculable amount of psychological physical pain, broken marriages, porn addictions, and aborted and dismembered “love” children that it brought with it, it seems, is the primary way to loudly declare yourself a cultural heretic.

Let me break it down. We, apparently, are the ones who are “anti-sex” because we elevate sex as an action of such significance that it should take place in a loving, committed context - marriage - one that is, incidentally, also the best context in which to raise children. We recognize that sex is an extraordinarily powerful human experience, one that we toy with or abuse at our peril. But the Sexual Revolutionaries insist that this is archaic and foolish. “More sex,” they say, “more sex, all the time and with whomever you’d like.”

Someone should make these people take economics. Basic rule: If you commodify something, you cheapen it. We’ve put cash prices on intimate human experiences, and we’ve created an industry that amounts to nothing more than a trade in human flesh. I’m no anti-capitalist, but some things should not be bought and sold. But now that millions have been pimped out by the Sexual Revolution, we do just that. We treat sex like a game or a toy. And, like over-enthusiastic children, we’ve broken it.

Here are just a very brief sampling of a few recent headlines:

- “Porn causing erectile dysfunction in young men”—Global News - “Internet pornography destroying men’s ability to perform with real women”—Daily Mail - “Does porn contribute to erectile dysfunction?”—Psychology Today

I often wonder why more people don’t see the sad irony in this. Like thirsty men and women guzzling salt water, we simply inflame our lusts with pornography, dehydrating ourselves of the true human intimacy we crave. Rather than recognizing it for the poison that it is, we claim that porn is a sex aid, or carefree recreation, or even a tool for helping a flagging marriage. Clinging to this cultural delusion is doing precisely the opposite of what the Sexual Revolutionaries promised us it would do: It’s killing sex.

Yet when people try to point this out—from self-described radical feminist Gail Dines to the Christian scholars who warned that this would happen before we even pried open Pandora’s Box—it is they who get called “anti-sex.”

Hugh Hefner built an empire selling the bodies of young, attractive women and men to millions, but his cash has not stopped him from becoming enslaved by his own product. When I consider that the very man who is envied by millions for the sexual lifestyle he leads can himself only find pleasure in the pale substitute for human intimacy he markets to the masses, it brings to mind something Christopher Hitchens once said, when responding to a Marxist in his audience. The quotation perfectly fits this circumstance as well.

“Well, there you have it, ladies and gentlemen. There you have it," Hitchens said. "You see how far the termites have spread, and how long and well they’ve dined.”

And so they have.


TOPICS: Education; Society
KEYWORDS: dirtyoldman; moralabsolutes; porn; sexualdysfunction
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To: Resettozero
(This is fun!)

"First you want to kill me, now you want to kiss me. Blow."

141 posted on 10/09/2014 12:14:25 PM PDT by Alex Murphy ("the defacto Leader of the FR Calvinist Protestant Brigades")
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To: trisham
"My husband is morally superior to me. Nicer, too."

Same situation in this house. :)

142 posted on 10/09/2014 12:18:54 PM PDT by CatherineofAragon ((Support Christian white males---the architects of the jewel known as Western Civilization.))
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To: Alex Murphy

Totally missed this one. Worth checking out? Or the sequel?


143 posted on 10/09/2014 12:24:04 PM PDT by Resettozero
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To: CodeToad

Hefner corrupted people, and induced them to corrupt each other. It’s far more devastating to the soul, and far more insidious, than the use of brute force.

The model is as old as Eden ... and as deadly today as it was then.

Hefner was following in the footsteps (does a Serpent have footsteps?) of his master: a murderer from the Beginning, a liar and the father thereof.

Wilson and his ilk were and are bad. Very bad.

Hefner and his ilk were and are worse.

IMO.


144 posted on 10/09/2014 12:24:28 PM PDT by NorthMountain
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To: CatherineofAragon

:)


145 posted on 10/09/2014 12:41:10 PM PDT by trisham (Zen is not easy. It takes effort to attain nothingness. And then what do you have? Bupkis.)
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To: Morgana
When I was 17 I'm ashamed to admit that I thought that Heffner was the coolest guy alive.In fact I recall having the same attitude when I was 25.Today I understand what he *really* is...and always *has* been...a filthy,despicable,damnable waste of breath.
146 posted on 10/09/2014 1:27:33 PM PDT by Gay State Conservative (Islamopobia:The Irrational Fear Of Being Beheaded)
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To: Morgana

A bit more information about him than I wanted to know, but makes sense.


147 posted on 10/09/2014 2:23:41 PM PDT by OldNewYork
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To: CodeToad

Honestly, I don’t think it was specifically the imagery of nude women that was so corrupting. I believe it was the overall selling and promotion of a degenerate, self-absorbed lifestyle/worldview. Nekkid gals was mostly the come-on, the gateway.


148 posted on 10/09/2014 3:07:54 PM PDT by greene66
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To: IronJack

That’s not the way some of the posts were written.

If it is a symptom, it has been prevalent throughout recorded history. It is like saying that breathing is a symptom of living; it is not going to go away regardless of the efforts. It might be controlled here and there but it isn’t going to disappear.

Symptom or cause, the primary focus still needs to be on wiping these fascists from all of politics at all levels.


149 posted on 10/09/2014 3:25:59 PM PDT by RJS1950 (The democrats are the "enemies foreign and domestic" cited in the federal oath)
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To: trisham

“He was a pervert.”

That’s an understatement.


150 posted on 10/09/2014 4:44:08 PM PDT by Morgana ( Always a bit of truth in dark humor.)
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To: OldNewYork

“A bit more information about him than I wanted to know, but makes sense.”

You know, some men might look at him and think “he lives the life of Riley” but I know he’s an empty, sad person.


151 posted on 10/09/2014 4:47:53 PM PDT by Morgana ( Always a bit of truth in dark humor.)
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To: greene66

“Honestly, I don’t think it was specifically the imagery of nude women that was so corrupting. I believe it was the overall selling and promotion of a degenerate, self-absorbed lifestyle/worldview. Nekkid gals was mostly the come-on, the gateway.”

DING DING DING WE HAVE A WINNER!!


152 posted on 10/09/2014 4:49:03 PM PDT by Morgana ( Always a bit of truth in dark humor.)
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To: muir_redwoods

“A man was trashed by an ex? Stop the presses!!”

Didn’t one of his exes say she caught him in bed with another guy? (And Hef owned up to it)


153 posted on 10/09/2014 4:54:44 PM PDT by PLMerite
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To: Morgana

I had read that he was using homosexual porn to move forward, as it were.


154 posted on 10/09/2014 5:26:15 PM PDT by Chickensoup (Leftist totalitarian fascism is on the move.)
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To: MosesKnows

watching male porn?


155 posted on 10/09/2014 5:28:47 PM PDT by Chickensoup (Leftist totalitarian fascism is on the move.)
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To: CodeToad

Put it another way, if a mere magazine with images of nude women could corrupt an entire population of people then just how moral was that population in the first place?

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I disagree Code Toad. People are wired for sex and sometimes the wiring wins. It is not that they are happy about what they are doing, it is that the visuals overwhelm. Moral people sometimes do immoral things. That is why our culture had such a cap on this sort of issue for so long. Our forefathers knew the weakness of the human mind and body.


156 posted on 10/09/2014 5:32:59 PM PDT by Chickensoup (Leftist totalitarian fascism is on the move.)
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To: greene66

Interesting perspective. It’s true that Hefner was promoting more than provocative images.

Below is a link to an interview of Hefner by William F. Buckley Jr. regarding the “Playboy Philosophy”

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kHlZxL9sucg


157 posted on 10/09/2014 5:35:33 PM PDT by trisham (Zen is not easy. It takes effort to attain nothingness. And then what do you have? Bupkis.)
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To: greene66

“degenerate, self-absorbed lifestyle/worldview”

Odd you say that since he was selling the “gentleman’s club” scene versus just outright orgies like others were selling.


158 posted on 10/09/2014 5:52:43 PM PDT by CodeToad (Islam should be outlawed and treated as a criminal enterprise!)
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To: Chickensoup

Nudie magazines and letters were already a thing of the day. There were even mail clubs for just that thing. I live in a State where western brothels flourished. Our founding fathers had a few that weren’t exactly chaste. We built this nation with sex as a mainstay, so something else has to be causing the moral decline.

The “Progressive Movement”, which had a major surge in 1913, including its own political party of which the likes of Roosevelt belonged, has caused the moral decline far more than nudie pictures.


159 posted on 10/09/2014 5:58:22 PM PDT by CodeToad (Islam should be outlawed and treated as a criminal enterprise!)
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To: NorthMountain

Or was the culture already corrupt and thus readily accepted Hefner?


160 posted on 10/09/2014 6:53:56 PM PDT by Henry Hnyellar
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