My situation was just the opposite. Since WI is a Community Property state and *I* was the responsible (dammit!) one - *I* got the added bonus of paying my ex for his bad behavior to buy my farm (which I paid for in the first place!) to be rid of him.
That was after he stole all of our retirement funds.
So, before you all start bashing women, it works both ways, Kids.
Tough lesson to learn, but I couldn’t be happier. :)
I thought I was reading my sister’s story when I read your post.
She was married to a gambling addict who ripped through the kids’ college funds among other accounts. She found out when an armed guard showed up at her door wanting to know about payments. She almost lost her job over all of it.
She divorced the bastard but had to pay him a huge amount of money just to get him to go away - 1/2 of a million dollar home that SHE had paid for. He tried to go after her retirement but she managed to block that through the use of a VERY high-priced lawyer who threatened to turn over ex-s thefts to the police for prosecution.
She said it set her back financially about 10 years after the dust finally settled.
A few months later, she got a call from LifeLock that her ex was still trying to open credit cards in her name.
I truly sympathize with you.
Every time I see a story like yours (and mine, I’m a guy, btw), the common thread is that there is usually a dirty, greedy, immoral skunk in the relationship.
And they’re the ones who get how to manipulate the system and use the integrity of their soon-to-be ex against them for their own fun and profit.
Too bad you live in Wisconsin and I live in MI. We would have both been better served if our locations were reversed!
But hey, we’re free now, right? :-)
Make me a sammich.
“Tough lesson to learn, but I couldn’t be happier. :)”
Ditto !
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