Yes, bondage IS abusive. Some people may enjoy being abused, that doesn't make it right.
As to the second part: or it could just mean that fudge packer doesn’t roll off the tongue naturally.
What SPECIFICALLY is YOUR agenda here? You've been a member of FR for a long time, but have relatively few posts and almost all of them are about movies, TV shows, celebrities, etc. All quite suspicious.
I commend your super sleuthing ability. I also appreciate your ability to tag everyone on a post specifically directed to you to help you gang pile on a poster with whom you don’t agree. I suppose my agenda on THIS thread is to point out that just because someone doesn’t use a specific term to label a fudge packer doesn’t mean they aren’t toeing the line. You look like an ass questioning everyone’s motives. I think it’s childish especially when it’s paired with your need to tag everyone on a post to you as well as your need to look your nose down at anyone who prefers a Walking Dead thread to one of the 300 ebola threads. Good day.