Try training your dog without the threat of spanking...
Is “never” a reasonable answer to the question?
So smack first and ask questions later?
I think this psychiatrist ablows.
I think that's the point.
gotta love the use of that word - as if they're admitting to a crime
Dad never gave spanking, he ripped his belt from his pants.
The sound alone put the fear of God in me.
That "conditioning' worked well on me.
From my experience as a parent I know that children, being self-centered, are often quite capable of ignoring what they do not wish to abide. Likewise, I know there are times when there is no room for discussion, which suggests future violations will be followed by more discussion. There are times when a parent must establish that there will be no more discussion.
Perhaps the good doctor’s kids sprung forth as fully rational beings with a sense of responsibility and the rights of others, but I can assure him that is not always the case.
And yet Dr. Ablow probably gets spanked nightly by his mistress.
Depends on age - the older >5 years, denial is a lot better. Can’t have this or that and go look at the paint in the corner ... under 5 they only understand that mommy or daddy hurt me. The memory fades in about two seconds and they’ll go right back and do the same.
Wrong. It's the end of the discussion, and it teaches them that stupidity hurts.
Sounds like he is from the “Dr. Spock School of messing children up by making them spoiled little brats”...
Quack.
No.
But what gays do with behinds is okay.
Depends on whether both sex partners are into it I suppose.
And if there are no "stop signs" then “kids” will establish their own "laws."
Absolute unadulterated horse puckey.
I spanked my daughter exactly once. It was never needed after that. My divorced ex-wife spanked her regularly. To no end except exercise for her arm.
The difference ? When I did it, it hurt. No damage, no bruises, but the message was very clear. Discipline problems were simply non-existent.
There’s spanking and then there’s beating. A little spanking once in awhile with an open hand gets a kids attention. I would say that from personal experience it teaches you to listen to what Mom and Dad tell you. Nothing like a couple of quick swats to get rid of the cobwebs. :-)
A good parent learns it is important to establish boundaries for the safety of the child and for their own sense of security. Parents have many tools including verbal and physical methods of supplying consequences to children to enforce the boundaries.
Most parents want to avoid physical consequences and resort to them as a last resort. The ability to avoid physical consequence is related to the skills, imagination and the natural disposition of the child. The most skillful parents plan in advance for environment changes and the child’s maturity.
When its necessary, its necessary but it means the parent ought to review the situation to avoid having to use physical punishment.
That said, a swat on a diapered childs bottom is not abuse by any stretch.