How do you have “friends” and “fellow Freepers” here since you signed up 04/18/2014? You cannot even reply without a screen name.
That aside, I believe that most lawyers will give you a free introductory meeting. I would suggest a lawyer specializing in bankruptcy, because it sounds like you are beyond help from accountants/ CPA’s.
NO, NO, NO! I AM a lawyer specializing in bankruptcy. If the returns were not filed and there is a liability, the tax debt is non-dischargeable!
My advice: Don’t go to a lawyer, FRiend. Start with getting your documentation and numbers in the best order possible, and then find a Certified Public Accountant whom you like. If you need to “hire,” a bookkeeper to help first, then make sure she’s a 1099 independent contractor (not an “employee”). Then get the returns filed ASAP.
There is A LOT of very good advice on this thread. Matthew Fuller’s advice, though, is what we call “malpractice.”