I’ve witnessed a lot of that abusive behavior. My late parents were married for 50 years and pretty much couldn’t stand each other for 45 of them. Divorce was more stigmatized in those days, but it would have been the wiser option. The eye-rolling, sarcasm, accusations, innuendos, and downright nastiness was always difficult to behold. I have two brothers and all three of us have been happily married for many decades. My youngest brother says that he just recalls what our parents did and does the opposite. Works well.
Oh my, I could have written that article! I recently reconnected with a couple I knew many years ago. He had been a successful man in his field and I just adored him for his calm leadership. About 10 years ago he lost his position and they decided he would stay home and she would support them. I was stunned by how she demeaned him all through our conversation! She would never had allowed any man to talk about her that way, yet she was openly “teasing” about his hobbies costing so much and being so silly or about not knowing what he did with all his free time all day. I watched his face and knew she did this all the time to probably everyone they knew. It made me sad to see this once proud, accomplished man being humiliated and accepting it like it was normal. Of course I could add that they are both flaming liberals, so maybe that is acceptable in their circles.