Thanks. Mom looks good (she’s’ 100+ years old) but she falls asleep while talking. She still shows her old spark from time to time.
I’m very uncomfortable, however, because last summer her house was burglarized. One of the reasons we are here is to pick up her recovered goods. We haven’t told her about the burglary and have since sold her house (she does know about that). She would be devastated about the burglary, and it doesn’t really matter. She does not need any of that stuff.
Now that the case has been ajudicated (sp?) we need to collect her property. I have to lie to her about what we are doing when we are not visiting. I hate that!
do it while she’s sleeping!
I can appreciate your dilemma, but I can’t say that I’ve ever experienced anything like it. I come from an ethnic group that does things differently-especially rural people like my folks-someone would be disowned/shunned by the family for what is commonly done in some modern cultures-especially the lying-and another relative would move mom in with them and protect her and her stuff, further disgracing the other relative-like the aunt I mentioned awhile back who has all the Chinese stuff-everyone finds it gaudy, but when she is gone, someone will treasure it all the same out of love and remembrance. Seems harsh and even primitive, I know but I was raised in that culture, where reverence for the wishes of, and responsibility for elders has been part of it for hundreds of years.