I have left complete instructions for my funeral and a specific dollar amount for it: 1 day or less visitation; minimum “vault”, my flag which I am entitled to and the vet cemetary....nothing more.
For our wedding, we spent about $4K. We had a nice event for 60 at a local BandB; appitizer plates, a cake, a pianist, and an available horse carriage ride. I supplied the wine from my cellar and a few cases of beer and each guest received a .375 bottle of wine with our wedding date label on it. We specifically stated no gifts, just come and party with us. Our neighbor minister officiated.
A friend, well, ex friend since they’ve moved away years ago, has been inviting me to their daughter’s wedding. Invite - wedding cancelled - on again - invite - change of date - invite - new venue - an updated invite - distaster #347 - another invite. Enough already. I told them the first time I wouldn’t be attending because I’d have to get a hotel room for two nights because of the distance. Told them again and again, no. Found out last week invitations went out... again... and I didn’t get one. Yippee! I got dumped because they sent an invation to someone they hate (feeling is mutual) hoping to get a $$$$ gift. Ha, it ain’t gonna happen.
B in L just got remarried and the new gold digger (see my new car, my new house, my huge ring!!) was planning a destination wedding. Excuse me, but if you want me to attend your destination then you’re going to buy my plane ticket. Apparently, the rest of the family was of the same opinion because she finally came around to having it locally but by that time she was so mad everyone was univited. Their kids were the only ones there and they were racing for the exit immediately after the I do’s. Now she’s mad because no one gave them gifts.