[Melas]

My uncle married a woman in her late 30's-both their first marriages though he dated a lot in the past. Divorced 2 years later. She was a virgin when he met her and guess what? She was as frigid as a popsicle. Zero sex drive. Sex maybe 5-6 times per year not matter what he did. He should have put 2+2 together and figured ahead of time sex was not a priority in her life... at that age with her still being a virgin and should have discussed it in detail what to expect. We asked him what were you thinking?

That particular kind of naivete is especially prevalent on FR. I can no longer remember the FReeperette's name, but on a thread a long time ago, she even postulated that most couples give up french kissing early into marriage. Having been married over 20 years, I assured her that was not the case in healthy marriages, which led to an exchange that left me with nothing but a profound sympathy for her husband.

[PapaBear3625]

Having been married over 20 years, I assured her that was not the case in healthy marriages,

Having been together close to 30 years, I agree with you.