I am firmly in the "make the other guy die" camp, but point taken :)
Along those lines, I often quote “I disagree with what you say, but I’ll defend to the death your right to say it”. With the caveat that I do not necessarily mean my OWN death :-)
“No one ever won a war by dying for his country. You win a war by making the other poor son of a bitch die for HIS country”
-ascribed to General George S. Patton