[rhett october]

This really spoke to my marriage. We've taken a couple of short trips together recently and my wife started crying during the drive. When I asked her what was wrong, she said, "We have nothing to talk about." It really hurt her that we didn't talk. I've often wondered how much Oprah and pop-psychology made her feel like there was a problem...when maybe it wasn't that big of a deal or even....normal. I read this and emailed it to her. It's nice to have a professional say it's okay if we don't have enlightening, non-stop conversation all the time as a married couple. It seemed to help both of us not feel this pressure to jabber all the time to "save our marriage."

It might sound trivial, but this issue was really making my wife feel like we were broken or something.

[HANG THE EXPENSE]

, a woman like that is hard to find

[HANG THE EXPENSE]

, a woman like that is hard to find

[stylin19a]

In the car, not sure which is worse, the silence or when she says “Remember that time...?” (no place to go @ 70MPH)

[ro_dreaming]

The problem I have is my wife only talks to criticize, demean, or demoralize me.

She won’t talk to me about the bills (I put 80% of my paycheck in HER account that I have no access, and she pays the bills with that and her paycheck; I use the other 20% for gas, lunches, oil changes, etc.).

I have the opportunity for a free night out - dinner, dancing with a live band, drinks, the whole she bang. She just would have to get dressed, and ride (I’d even drive the 30 minutes there and 30 minutes back). On a Saturday - when she’ll be napping, and be energetic enough to go “out”. She said “I don’t want to drive that far” - I told her I’d drive. She said, let me rephrase, I don’t want to GO that far.

Ok, so that tells me what I’m worth, right?

There’s a reason I separated from her in October, and I’m trying to take baby steps to go back, but with crap like that, why go back to be miserable again?

[TalBlack]

Make her laugh, often and hard. It’s a great stand in for conversation and it wears them out.

[Bob]

I once went for two weeks without saying a word to my ex. There wasn’t anything wrong. Growing up, I was taught that interrupting someone was rude. :=)

[Gideon7]

Back when I was dating and looking for a spouse there were three women that I had seriously considered. In the end I didn’t pick the prettiest one, nor did I pick the one with the doctoral degree. Instead I picked the one I most enjoyed sharing long conversations with.

20 years later my wife and I are still having those wonderful conversations, and our marriage is as strong as ever.

[cherry]

my husband and I take long road trips and often we won't say a thing....but we're "in tune"...we're watching the same road and scenery and listening to the same music...

its restful not to HAVE to talk about nothing just so it looks good.

[DrJeff]

Not to make light of the situation, but this is a humorous illustration of how men and women approach things differently https://youtu.be/-4EDhdAHrOg