Posted on 02/07/2017 11:17:02 AM PST by rhett october
My sister-in-law just told me her husband thanked her the other morning for not smothering him in his sleep. :)
True.
We often find ourselves saying exactly the same thing at the same time. I guess we’re in tune.
LOL! It pays to be polite!
My wife is a USC grad of a grad school and goes gaga over anything gamecock sports.
I get nothing from ballgames, especially college ball and I don’t go to any.
The problem I have is my wife only talks to criticize, demean, or demoralize me.
She won’t talk to me about the bills (I put 80% of my paycheck in HER account that I have no access, and she pays the bills with that and her paycheck; I use the other 20% for gas, lunches, oil changes, etc.).
I have the opportunity for a free night out - dinner, dancing with a live band, drinks, the whole she bang. She just would have to get dressed, and ride (I’d even drive the 30 minutes there and 30 minutes back). On a Saturday - when she’ll be napping, and be energetic enough to go “out”. She said “I don’t want to drive that far” - I told her I’d drive. She said, let me rephrase, I don’t want to GO that far.
Ok, so that tells me what I’m worth, right?
There’s a reason I separated from her in October, and I’m trying to take baby steps to go back, but with crap like that, why go back to be miserable again?
LOL :)
:)
She and her six sisters are involved in organizing my niece's wedding in June. Most of us are staying at a resort in San Marcos during that week.
I already know what's on my agenda for that week, besides the wedding, of course: 3-4 days will be spent in Fredericksburg, visiting a winery and a craft brewery each day.
You want to really get her attention...change your deposit status to 100 per cent your account...then she has to talk to you....and show you the accounts!
LMAO.
Bwahahahaha! “The Committee for a Better America”, lol.
Why on earth would you put 80% of your paycheck into an account you have zero access to? If anything, it should be the other way around but I always have access to 100% of my money and my wife has access to around 50% of that.
Good suggestions! Sometimes I get in a fights with other guys. My wife gets on my case as to why it happens. I finally explained that I'd rather take it out on others who pick fights than fight her, just letting things go between us rather than persuing an argument with her. She got nicer after that, and my fights stopped.
Make her laugh, often and hard. It’s a great stand in for conversation and it wears them out.
My brother had such a marriage counselor, so, after several sessions, his wife refused to participate and demanded a new counselor. The new counselor reached the same conclusion, telling my brother’s wife that she was crazy not to save her marriage. She persisted, so they were divorced soon after.
Well, we were doing the separate accounts thing (which I’ve always hated), because she wanted it, and I wasn’t going to push it. We’ve been married 15 1/2 years, but only the first 10 or so were good. Anyway, since she’s got multiple degrees, one in business administration, and I’ve never been to college, we decided to use the family skills and have her pay the bills. Things worked ok for a while... then she just stopped talking to me about the bills altogether.
I’m about to move it to a 35% going to her account; which is what my child support would be (or so). And then she’ll have to talk to me rationally, rather than just scream and yell about I’m not paying my fair share, etc. Where does all my money go, etc.
There’s a reason I moved out. That’s one of them. The no intimacy (hugs, kisses, hand holding, cuddling, or sex) in the past 5 years is another.
This may have to do with you trying to be a "Free-Lance Journalist"
instead of holding down a real job which pays actual money.
Get you a real job, Quit thinking that anyone gives a shit about what you think or write on your blog.
“Sometimes my husband and I can travel an hour at a time and never say anything. Other times we talk like magpies. It just means we are comfortable in each other’s presence anyway.”
My husband and I were the same way. He passed away a few years ago, and I would give anything to take another car trip with him — talking or not talking.
Great minds and all that . . .
The problem is that scenario plays out in real life for me (to a lesser extent in my wife’s defense) but in my case it’s the mower or a generator.
If you can add multiply and regular math stuff...you can do bills. Make it 20 per cent and have the lawyers negotiate otherwise the other side might think if you’ll pay 35 per cent maybe you can 50 percent with alimony thrown in!
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