SAme here, but 20 years. Blindsided. Also, following 14 months of forced celibacy.
Difference is that after several sessions with my church leaders to try to work it out, utterly failing, I prayed that if one was leaving to free the other (love wise). I realized, two weeks later, that I no longer had a scrap of feeling for her. A week after that I went to my 25 year class reunion and met the woman I’ve now been married to for 18.5 years. She truly is the love of my life and the honeymoon is not over.
We simply NEVER fight and always treat each other with utmost respect. I treat her as if I’m blessed to have her in my life. It’s easy because it is how I feel.
And she treats me the same way. And for the same reason.
And at the center of it all is God.
Amen. After I got divorced, I told God I wanted to be happily married some day, but that I was not going to go out and look for a man, that He’d have to bring one to me. Six years later, a man walked into my place of work, and the minute I saw him, I knew he was the one. After we had spent hours on the phone with each other, he confided in me that a couple of weeks before we met, he had re-dedicated his life to the Lord, and had asked God to bring him a Godly woman. We’ve been happily married for fourteen years.