Before you start crying in your beer you need to do an accounting of all bank accounts, retirement accounts, personal property, real estate, etc. that you have accumulated during the marriage. That is number one. Make a list and present it to your lawyer.
Second, you are probably thinking that this is going to be an amicable split. WRONG. You need to prepare yourself for a bare knuckles brawl. Women will fight over an ashtray. Trust me.
Third, DO NOT leave your house until the divorce is finalized. Once again, DO NOT leave your house until the divorce is finalized.
Trust me, you’ll have plenty of time to cry in your beer later. But you need to put your business hat on, pronto!
Trust me, you’ll have plenty of time to cry in your beer later.....I’ve been divorced three times (widowed once) and never paid a dime. You just need to have the “right attitude” The last one was asked by the Judge what did she want? She actually said “I want him the F...ck out of my life!” Judge looked at me deadpan, and said “are you agreeable to that?” I said “HELL YA!!, Lunch is on me. Including her lawyer.” What a nice woman! Never understood how she got tangled up with me.