Do not move out of the house until a court tells you to do so.
That's the Primary Directive.
Put up with the misery and stay put.
DO NOT ABANDON THE HOUSEHOLD! That alone could be worth 10's of thousands of dollars.
Don't inflame arguments...try to remain passive. It's important for any/all witnesses to see that, especially the kids.
If she goes crazy on you, call the cops NO MATTER WHAT!!!!!!!!