“the ex- missed an evening activity at the school, in order to go drink with his work buddies. Reinforced the decision, and my son was highly upset, told me he knew what was more important to dad. People might criticize, but hold your head high.”
I’m sure convincing your son that his father’s world must revolve around him and succumb to his will has done wonders for his emotional well being, particularly now that his father is no longer around as the result of that belief.
I am not sure what you are trying to say, but it seems to be some kind of slam about me and what you seem to assume I may have said or done to influence my son/children.
Why don’t you tell me all about it, since you feel you know the facts?
His father is no longer around, you are right. His father died 5 years ago at age 56 due to complications of alcoholism. His father chose to put his own social and partying lifestyle above the role of being a husband to me or a father to his children. He made that choice in about 1992. We divorced in 1994. He once was in a fight at a bar, and the police were called. He had the kids there with him, 9 and 5 years old. Then he moved hundreds of miles away to live with a girlfriend in a trailer in backwoods MO. He did not care that he would not see the kids regularly, because he was in love.
So you can make all the nasty comments you want about what you think must be my parental failures, without knowing any of the facts or of the heartache that we endured for years, and feel that you have somehow put me in my place. Hope it makes you feel good.
“the ex- missed an evening activity at the school, in order to go drink with his work buddies. Reinforced the decision, and my son was highly upset, told me he knew what was more important to dad. People might criticize, but hold your head high.”
“I’m sure convincing your son that his father’s world must revolve around him and succumb to his will has done wonders for his emotional well being, particularly now that his father is no longer around as the result of that belief.”
Exactly. My parents were never at any of my games and I turned out just fine. That is part of the problem with our kids—they think the world must revolve around them.
A husband and father's first priority is his family, not his drinking buddies or whatever else he wants or feels like indulging in.
Your response show a great deal of emotional immaturity. Marriage is not a free ride for the man. He did not get married to live as he chooses and have a live in housekeeper and baby sitter with privileges.
Time for the guy to man up and take responsibility like the man he claims to be and is supposed to be.