You guys are not looking at it. A dilemma is when there is NO right decision. If there is a right decision it is not a dilemma. If you choose A, this bad thing happens. If you choose B that bad thing happens. You MUST choose A or B. (in my case, do something, do nothing)
If given the option to kill one of two people or be killed yourself, there is a better answer between them.
Life is not fair and cannot be made fair. Decisions will haunt us. We will answer for them on Judgment Day.
God allows everything to happen that happens. It does not mean He doesn't want the best to have happened, but He chooses to not intervene. He expects us to be His tools to do Right. We have failings, however, so these things will be done imperfectly at least some part of the time.
I did not get along with my father, and was relieved when he passed on. He died with his live-in girlfriend (a nurse) who knowingly left him dead for 10-12 hours, and even then, she didn't call the authorities (instead, a distant friend of my dad's).
I don't care that he died that way. We had the coroner check reasons for death, just in case, but my duty was done at that. He left everything to the questionable nurse, down to the penny, over the rest of his immediate family.
I do not feel I did anything wrong in not stopping him from being with this questionable person. I don't feel I wrong for being happy he's dead. He knew better and chose his path many, many times over.
We can't “fix” or “save” everyone.
Heck, even my choice of dinner makes someone somewhere die, because that money instead could have made all the difference.
We need to care and work toward getting to a healthier place in our lives with God. We need to most of all, glorify God in all we do.
Our hearts and actions will always fall short. Do the best you can, with what you have, where you are. Continue to seek God's heart.
“If you choose A, this bad thing happens. If you choose B that bad thing happens. You MUST choose A or B.”
I think ethics would demand you try to choose the action that causes the least amount of harm. How to judge what is the least amount of harm is probably the tricky part.