[Anti-Hillary]

Were you adopted? No? If not you have no idea what it means to have the pieces to puzzle of your origin, good, bad or indifferent missing in your life. This is NOT about you, the birth mother or anyone else. This is about your niece and her quest for knowledge of the truth. No need to candy coat it. Just tell it like it is, and TELL it! The truth always sets people free even if it isn't always warm and fuzzy. Fear not and have faith that you may be gaining a huge blessing into your life and vise verse.

[RedStateRocker]

Brilliantly well said.
When doing genealogy, what you want is the TRUTH. The skeletons are sometimes pieces that give the person more insight than anything else.

[Grams A]

I was adopted 72 years ago and just recently tried to find out what happened to my bio mom and brother. I would love to be able to find anyone anywhere who could answer these questions but the maze has just been too great after almost 70 years. Tell her the truth. She will have to decide what she does with it and how she chooses to react.

[gogeo]

And don’t let anyone guilt you into doing something you don’t wish to do.

[martinidon]

The post of the year! Thank you for your insight on this issue. As the father of a 13 yr old daughter it is not about you or the birth parents. My daughter struggles with what she perceives as the rejection of her birth parents. As much as we tell her the birth parents put her up for adoption because they loved her and wanted her to have a better life, there is still that lingering issue that she was not wanted.
It is a tough issue for a growing child, she would have been in a horrible place if her birth parents had not put her up for adoption. We have been blessed beyond anything we could imagine with the opportunity to raise this beautiful girl! Tonight, I i can't tell you how blessed I am, as I hear the loud music and laughter from my daughter and her friend (sleep over) tonight. It will be a long night but for my daughter a wonderful and blessed night.