Why you and not her mother or brother? I would direct her toward them. Your brother is gone, his child doesn’t need to suffer over the past. That doesn’t mean you sugar coat it but it doesn’t mean you drag it all up and hurt her.
Your brother is gone, his child doesn’t need to suffer over the past.
You people do not get it. Genetics is not everything. This was not “his child.” Only some genes were shared, but this creep is not the man who tucked her in, taught her things, loved her, helped her grow into the young lady she is. HER ADOPTED DAD IS HER DAD.