Most women prefer a light load, like a 110 in the Airtight S&W .38 Special.
I tried the Hornady low recoil 38 SD in it. Still too much recoil for my wife’s wrist.
She now carries a Sig P238 with extra mags. More rounds and much easier for her to handle.
I only have the 158 grain +P because it was what I could find during the post Sandy Hook shortage; not much 38 sp there for a while. Too much for a gun that light and small.