Conflicting feelings here.
On the one hand, you DID say “in sickness and in health”.
On the other hand, life is short and it’s hard to live torture every day.
Maybe a compromise: Stay married but stay away half the time, another residence or soemthign.
He cant get a second residence she will follow him there and throw rocks thru his windows. She’s nutz.
Life on earth is short but life with Jesus is eternal. It’s easy to forget that but we must try to remember our happiness here is not our main goal. Loving Jesus is our main goal.