Her childhood was not good. Her mom left when she was ten (my wife is the oldest of the kids). Her dad wasn’t the greatest dad and gave them up for adoption. The couple that adopted them had issues too. The dad was a drunk and there are allegations of abuse. Her second sister was a druggie and alcoholic and ended up having 15 kids by numerous men. Her youngest sister was a lesbian. Her other sister seems fine but has had some relationship issues and drank heavily for a while.
Your wife has definitely had a very sad and trying life. What bothers me is you have never been given a definitive diagnosis... Bipolar is very different from Schizophrenia. I am so sorry, rfreedom4u. When your wife is medicated and more “normal”.. have you discussed that she HAS to keep taking the meds? I just keep thinking that some sort of counseling for the two of you wouldn’t hurt. If the counselor can make it clear that she has to keep taking the medications or her marriage is at risk.. would that help matters?