That might have been me. Weddings involve so much hypocrisy, mendacity, tackiness, and snobbery I just prefer to avoid them, even family weddings. I refuse to send gifts as I view invitations as a demand for a gift and people today can pretty afford to get what they need without the extra help.
So my feelings are that folks just avoid all the drama, go get married and put that money you would have blown on a wedding in a sensible mutual fund and invest it for the long haul.
I believe yours is the best answer—I feel the same way.
The most recent weddings I have been to (going back let’s say 5-10 years) the couple lived together before they married; sometimes one (or both!) were divorced; sometimes one (or both!) had a child (or a few) ... The brides (to my memory) all wore white (expensive gowns, veils, etc) and whether a “church” or civil ceremony, there were at least a half dozen attendants, thousands in flowers, limos, horse drawn carriages...you get the picture. They were visual productions of excess not necessarily the forming of a union to last all the ages...
I’ve also seen weddings go from “gift registry” to “Honeymoon” registry...I mean who doesn’t want to chip in so the newlyweds can snorkel in the Gulf of Mexico?
Sadly, two grooms, brides, etc seems the (in)natural progression in the Industrial Bridal Complex.
Heh, if it was you, I loved the post!
All so true...