Posted on 01/14/2015 2:21:50 PM PST by hondact200
Today, the painful decision has been made to start the process for Nursing Home Placement of my mother who is the last stage (stage 7) of Alzheimers Disease. I have to have multiple surgeries and I can no longer take care of her by myself. Pray for the situation as my mother will decline rapidly once she goes into the nursing home. She has six children and I am the only one whom has been involved the last 4 years. Have not been given a date but placement will come soon.
Been there done that my sincere thoughts and prayers go out to you all We had a good experience with Sun rise care in Huntington Beach Ca.
You have my sympathies and, more importantly, my prayers for your mother, yourself and your family.
Prayers for your mom. But especially for YOU.
There are support groups and there is help available for caregivers like you who are exhausted. Find them. Use them.
I pray peace and blessings for you.
hugs
Been through it. Our prayers are with you and your mother. There comes a point where she really can get better care than you can provide. And as for the siblings, which of them will take her in?
.....silence? End of discussion.
Prayers here for you hondact, and for your mother. It is a traumatic thing to go through. Have you looked into placing her into a residential care home? Some of them take Alz patients, and can be less costly than traditional nursing homes. Just a thought. As to your siblings: I have seen it countless times. Ten kids or one, it almost always boils down to one child as caregiver. And all you get for it is grief. Prayers here for you.
FWIW you are making the right choice. Burn their entire inheritance if necessary to put her in a good nursing home. The quality varies widely. JHMO of course. BTW, checking out homes sucks. Helped do that for a friend who had to go in for medical reasons. Prayers up for you. Hang in there.
Tough spot to be in, and with no family help? I’m sorry! Been diagnosed as an early stage “Sundowner” myself. It stinks! I’ll pray for you and your Mom!
Prayers offered. God bless you.
Prayers for you and your family.
We are not to that stage yet, but it seems to be getting closer.
Did you do estate planning?
God bless and keep you, dearest hondact200. You are an Angel. I will pray for your successful surgeries and for your cherished Mom as well. She’ll be fine in the nursing home you have selected with loving care.
I am so sorry that you are going through this. My mother had a stroke last year and she was in a nursing home for a month for rehabilitation.
It tore us all up to see her in there but we knew it was for the best. She has been at home since June and doing pretty good. But we all have noticed that she just isn’t the same. My dad was a basket case while she was there. He couldn’t stand being at home without her.
My parents are in their 80’s and have asked us all what we want when they die. I told them I would take whatever they wanted me to have.
By way of practical advice, I suggest that you try putting a CD player or other audio device on your mother's night stand with her favorite music set to cycle through continuously during the day. As my grandmother declined and was bedridden and otherwise unresponsive due to dementia, she would smile and try to sing along with the Irish ballads of her Dublin youth that we had playing for her.
Bless you for giving your mother such good care for so long. I recently had to put my 98 yr. old Dad in a nursing home. I have cared for him in our home for the past ten years. His Alzheimer’s got so bad that I was physically (and mentally) unable to care for him any longer. The monthly cost is rapidly depleting his funds. When that is gone he will have to go on Medicaid. My sister is upset because her inheritance is dwindling and thinks I should still keep him here with us. I just can’t do it any longer. She has been no help at all.
You have my sympathy and prayers. I know just what you are going through.
“The money will be gone and they want what the believe they are entitled too - an inheritance.”
I feel for you! You are doing the right thing. Saying a prayer for you and your mom.
Prayers for you and your mother. You cannot look after your mother if you are not in good health in mind and body. Take care of yourself so you can be the best advocate you can be for your mother.
Never mind the others. You know what is right.
God bless and keep you and your cherished Dad, too, dearest Rushmore Rocks.
FReepers are the very best. I can’t even get any of my kids to come help me pack up and move.
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