[Slyfox]

You might check into being their power of attorney for starters.

[DownInFlames]

My wife is POA tor both her parents and both of us were primary care givers for 6 years. Her brothers have walked away from us especially after her dad became suicidal and had to go into a dementia ward. I would never do it again.

[zlala]

My sister has some kind of power of attorney regarding their checking/savings. Honestly, I don't know how far is goes. She pays their bills, but they control the money to my knowledge. But, tomorrow that will become clearer to me.

At this point I'm not sure my mom will sign anymore power of attorney(s) because she's pretty angry with her children. She claims we "dumped" them and never visit. We visit every week, if not several times a week. It's a mess right now.

I appreciate your comment.

[sr4402]

You might check into being their power of attorney for starters.

Yes, Durable Power of Attorney and Full medical POA. Without those there is little you can do.

We were able to get my mother to sign these when we told her that her will was no longer valid being 50 years out of date (legally). We found an attorney that would do a package deal - Will, POA, MED POA and Trust for a super low price. It was the low price that attracted it to her.

Other than this look for triggering events and use them wisely. A minor accident can be used to get them to do the right thing.

Sometimes an expert outsider can be most helpful. Mother was not going to get any help while Dad was dying in the house (of a fatal illness, coming home to die). I got her to go with me to a Hospice. The director was fantastic and mother got the help she really needed (and avoided a lot of complications).

Prayers go with you. Let us know if you have POA and full Med.

[gdani]

You might check into being their power of attorney for starters.

This right here. POA over health AND financial matters, I'll add.